Feel physically unattractive to men, there have been times when i was struggling to eat because of this. I envy girls that have guys asking them out to eat etc… i feel pathetic that i like guys simply because they pay small attention to me./is nice to me. In school, guys dont ask me out…i do feel envious of girls who talk about guys asking them out.
I really envy people who are in their early 20s getting into healthy romantic relationship.
oh no, u dont want to start diving into anorexia to look attractive. attractiveness is also based on personality. If physical looks do bother u then eat healthily while exercising based on the body type u want to achieve. You can work on those and then expose urself to more guys by going for meetup apps or dating apps, to increase ur chances of getting seen n interacted w. I can ask u out platonically tho
my weight is not overweight at all…but im not blessed with good looks…i think im the type that guys not really interested in, and those events seem intimidating to me. Guys have plainly told me im not good looking so ya i think i accept it liao. ,
well, i am average looking and i am jealous when my handsome and tall friends has girls looking at him when he walks past or even go to him to get to know him with him. attractive ppl’s lives are on easy mode for everything while we struggle at everything.
hmm, u still have make up and hairstyling left. learn those and try dating apps. It’s an unhealthy coping mechanism but some girls usually get their validation from guys cuz girls will receive a lot of likes and attention from dating apps no matter what they look like. u can give it a try though i dont suggest that and suggest healthier ways like working on the first 2 and working on an attractive personality
Hey OP,
I understand the feeling of looking “unattractive” to guys. I’ve never been asked out by guys, and so when guys pay attention to me, I also get that giddy feeling of being noticed. It does feel pretty pathetic that “wow, is it that easy for guys to flatter me just by doing the bare minimum?”
But eventually as I am about to enter the quarter of my life, I realised that what I desire is not just a romantic partner —it’s the companionship. Yes, it feels that you’re left out when you’re not getting into these relationships that other girls are getting into. But I realised that I’ve already found comfort and safety among my friends who’ve stuck by me for years. I could ask for nothing more. Perhaps spending time with friends or people you can spend activities with can be something to look into.
You also mentioned that you’ve been struggling to eat because of feeling unattractive. I’m really sorry for that. Please know that you don’t deserve to suffer and that you deserve to eat as much as other people do. You do not need to prove your worth just to get your primary needs.