I feel like very insecure about how I look since my mom always has said comments she doesn’t mean in a harsh way about my body like how I’m like really flat and she buys me lots of padded bras and how I have no ■■■ and I have to eat more but I can’t physically change my bodyweight no matter how much I eat because I have a really high metabolism and I just end up feeling sick afterwards. A part of me wants to gain weight so I don’t look like a twig and my mom won’t make those accidental remarks about me anymore but I also feel like I don’t wanna eat cause I just don’t feel like it or i ‘d just be disappointed looking at the weighing scale again because I didn’t gain any weight and I have a twin as well so ppl often make jokes like “she took all of the nutrition in the womb” and it just makes me kinda self conscious about myself.
Hey @fairhibiscus5185, I can hear the hurt that you’re experiencing from having to constantly listen to others commenting on your body, and I am sorry that you have had to experience that 
It is not fair for others to pass such seemingly ‘playful’ remarks as it is hurtful to the receiver! I think that as long as you are eating and moving your body in a healthy manner, your appearance should not concern anyone but yourself. It is definitely difficult to maintain a healthy self-perception when others around you make such insensitive remarks. I hope that you gain the courage to shut down their jokes and set boundaries around them. After all, like you said, metabolisms are different and each person’s body make up is unique at the end of the day - weight shows up differently and fluctuations in weight can sometimes be for reasons other than just food intake etc.
Hey @fairhibiscus5185,
From what you shared, it seems those comments have been affecting you over time. Even if your mum does not intend to be harsh, repeated remarks about your body can shape how you see yourself.
It may also be coming from her concern. Some parents focus on how their child might be seen by others and try to guide through comments. But when it happens often, it can lower confidence without anyone realising it.
You have been trying to do something about it as well, eating more, hoping to gain weight, but your body is not responding the way you expect. That can feel frustrating. The comparison with your twin adds another layer, especially when others make jokes about it.
Wanting to be healthy is a valid intention. At the same time, body weight alone does not fully reflect health. While doctors may use BMI as one reference point, they also consider overall nutrition, energy levels, and general functioning.
Regarding your metabolism, if your body weight is not changing, it could be that your intake is still around what your body needs to maintain itself. Forcing yourself to eat until you feel unwell may not be helpful in the long run.
If you are open to it, you might consider speaking to a nutritionist. They can assess whether your current diet is sufficient and guide you on how to approach this safely.
One thing you might reflect on, when you try to eat more, is it mainly for your own health, or more to reduce the comments from others?
What you are experiencing is understandable. It may help to slowly separate your sense of health from the comments and comparisons around you, and focus on what your body actually needs. Hope that it helps.