Lately I’ve been having burst of anger to the extend where I can get mind block and I’m afraid of loosing control. I need help
Breathing has helped me a lot!
Dear @user994404
Thank you for reaching out. This is a good first step as it shows you are noticing an unhelpful pattern change in your behaviour and want to proactively address it before it worsens. To me, that ability of yours to reflect and ask for help, shows maturity and courage.
Please know that I have observed that anger is a very common reaction among many of us and it can be managed, so do not be too discouraged.
From what I have experienced, many circumstances in our life can lead us to react with anger. For example, stress, lack of sleep, looming deadlines, uncooperative classmates/colleagues and various others. It may be good to reflect and write down what has been happening around you. Arising from the reflection, I believe you will detect when you are more vulnerable to bouts of anger and then proactively take steps to minimise such circumstances.
May I also encourage you to speak to a counsellor soon? If you are still in school set up an appointment with the school counsellor. If you require immediate help you could also consider calling the national mindline at 1771. The hotline operates 24/7 and staffed by caring and competent counsellors who can provide you the safe space to unpack your emotions without judgement.
Counsellors could also help practise you skills and techniques that you can utilise when you feel overwhelmed. For example, box breathing and grounding techniques help many of us to come back into the present and bring our thinking abilities back online so that we can choose our responses instead of reacting.
You fully deserve support so do reach out soon to counsellors. Do also reach out here whenever needed. ![]()
I’m really glad you shared this as it takes courage and self-reflection to.
What you’re describing sounds frightening, especially the part about feeling blocked and afraid of losing control. That doesn’t make you a bad or dangerous person. It usually means something inside you has been building up for a long time and your system is overwhelmed. Anger often shows up when other feelings haven’t had space to be felt or heard.
Right now, the most important thing is your safety and sense of control. When you feel a surge coming on, a few things that can help in the moment:
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Pause and slow your breathing (even 4 seconds in, 6 seconds out)
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Step away from people or situations if you can
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Ground yourself physically: cold water on your face, holding on to something, and putting your feet flat on the floor
But beyond the moment-to-moment stuff: you don’t have to handle this alone. Please consider reaching out to a mental health professional, counsellor, or trusted adult as soon as you can. Bursts of anger like this are a sign you deserve support, not shame.
If at any point you feel like you might hurt yourself or someone else, please seek urgent help immediately by going to A&E or calling a local crisis line. That’s not failure; that’s taking care of yourself, alright?
You’re not weak for needing help. You’re listening to a warning sign, and that’s a good thing.