Basically, since last year, I have been struggling to trust people and feel like nobody likes me. I just want to know if this is normal because my “best friend” is making new friends whilst im alone in my own mind thinking that everyone hates me and that maybe she doesn’t even like me as we are not as nearly as close as we used to be. Is it normal to think nobody likes me?
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you’ve been feeling. It takes a lot of courage to put these thoughts into words, especially when they feel so overwhelming. I want you to know that it’s not uncommon to have doubts about whether people like us, especially when we see changes in our relationships, like with your best friend making new friends.
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time where it feels like everything is shifting around you, and it’s leaving you feeling isolated and unsure of yourself. When our closest connections start to change, it’s natural to question where we stand and even to wonder if we’re still valued.
What you’re feeling is something many people experience at different points in their lives. Friendships can evolve, and sometimes that can be really hard to accept, especially when we feel left behind. It’s important to recognize that these thoughts about people not liking you are a reflection of how vulnerable you’re feeling right now. But they aren’t necessarily the truth.
When you’re stuck in your own mind with these thoughts, it’s easy to spiral into thinking that nobody cares. But I want to encourage you to consider that maybe these thoughts are more about how you’re feeling inside rather than how others actually feel about you. Sometimes, when we’re struggling with our self-esteem or going through a difficult time, it can feel like we’re not as likable or valuable as we truly are.
It might help to try and talk to your best friend about how you’re feeling. It doesn’t have to be a big, serious conversation, but just letting them know that you miss the closeness you used to have might open up a dialogue. You might find that they’ve been going through changes too, and that your friendship is still important to them.
Also, try to be gentle with yourself. It’s easy to be hard on ourselves when we’re feeling low, but it’s important to remember that everyone has moments of doubt and insecurity. It’s part of being human.
If these feelings continue to weigh you down, it might be helpful to talk to someone who can support you, like a counselor or a trusted adult. They can help you work through these feelings and find ways to build your confidence and sense of self-worth.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to seek support. Remember, your feelings are valid, and there are people who care about you—even if it doesn’t always feel that way right now.
Take care of yourself, and if you ever want to talk more, we are here to listen.