my bf and i broke up several months ago and i have not felt like there’s anything left to live for ever since then
for context i grew up in an extremely toxic family where my dad had anger management issues and would explode whenever i said something he didnt like, and my mom simply thinks I’m a fking waste of space. so basically i grew up with extreme self-loathing behaviors and no self-esteem. i literally hate every single element of my existence and i would choose to never be born if i could
i got into a r/s with someone whom i got close to and he made me forget all my problems at home. he was the only reason why i was happy for a very long time. but bc it was a LDR, i started wishing more, like for us to move to be together. i had poor emotion regulation and would sometimes lash out at him when i got really pissed off. he also started becoming more avoidant and would rarely reply my texts. this made me feel like i was losing him
something extremely tragic happened in my family one day and over time, i started having suicidal thoughts again…i opened up to him and he said this was not normal. long story short one night he called polis on me and i went to imh, then when i confronted with him saying i will kill him if he was next to me, he blocked me everywhere.
that happened half a year ago and now i still feel like i can’t let go, but he refuses to speak to me ever since then no matter how much i beg and plead with him. i admit i was definitely wrong because there were times when i said i would blackmail/harm him but those were only words and i never planned to do anything bad to him. I asked for his forgiveness and promised him that i have not had those thoughts or intentions for a long time, but he still refused to speak to me…and i can’t let go of him no matter how hard i try. i can’t seem to get used to being single again and i feel like it is simply impossible to find meaning in life when i’m alone like 90% of the time. i also have really bad trust issues and would never talk to a therapist/professional bc I refuse to cry in front of people, so i would rather bottle it up or rant anonymously. i feel like I’m in a really bad place but i can’t seem to seek help and i’m constantly afraid of judgement, even if I get assured that there is no judgement.
i don’t know what to do anymore…life feels too heavy sometimes and i just sleep 20 hours a day to numb myself and to forget about the pain