Hey
Don’t really know how to explain this but I’ve been feeling so anxious and crying for the last couple days.
I have this constant feeling that something horrible is going to happen and I don’t really know what to do.
I just graduated and left s lot of my friends in another country. I also just broke up with someone I really loved and I’ve just been like doomscrolling or looking back at old pictures with so much sadness.
And I kinda just want to move on but I can’t really think of anything further.
Like I’m genuinely crying as I’m writing this and I can find the specific trigger because there’s too many I guess.
Advice thoughts similar experiences? Anything is welcome, please.
Hey OP,
I’m really sorry for what happened with you 
It seems that there’s a lot of sudden changes in your life that’s left you distraught. It’s not easy when you’re thrust into an unfamiliar phase in your life and having to re-adjust. It’s okay to feel sad about it.
Unfortunately, it will take time of grieving. My last year of uni was also quite like that. I spent a month or so grieving because I had also broken up with my first partner, and I was really, really stressed with finishing my final year project. It really felt like I was in hell. Frankly, I have no idea how past me got through it.
But I would say having supportive friends helped tremendously. I was very lucky to have friends who allowed me to vent and process my feelings, as well as console me as best as they can. I understand that you moved away from your friends, perhaps you guys have a group chat or a channel where you can still keep connection with them?
I also find that being stuck in your room for so long can really affect your mental health negatively, so even though being inside your own room is really comfortable, it’s good to get yourself outside once in a while. A park, a library, an arts gallery, or the coast—anywhere that you’d like, really.
I do hope you find better days, OP. It’s a terrible state to be in, and I only wish for you to find healing 
hi @user2417, I am so sorry you are going through all this; it is a lot to take in. I understand that leaving your friends after spending all the precious time in uni together feels very fresh, perhaps you can also converse with them through text and video calls, it can help as well! perhaps you can consider going out on walks and engage in other activities as well. rooting for you! 
It’s just the time zones are so different and I feel I have no energy to call them. I don’t know why because I’m such a talkative person usually and when in person I have no problem.
That was my first relationship and I honestly have no clue how to get over it. Everyone’s like just delete the pictures, but a) I can’t bring myself to do that and also b) how helpful will it be if it’s in my mind?
If you have any tips for that pls share
I am going to go for a sports class tomorrow your advice gave me some motivation and get out of my room for a bit. Thank you for the reply, it’s nice to know that someone understands.
Thank you! I think I’m going to do more physical activity. It seems to be the leading advice.
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Ah I see, I feel you. My friends live in the US so the timezone was something that I had to work around as well. For us, we had a routine of calling once a week, and each alternate week, we would try to fall to fit into the other’s schedule. I understand that life can get hectic, and what is working for us when it is during our exams week is to text. I understand the pictures do hold a sentimental value, but perhaps maybe you can also take a breather 
I think going for your sports class is a good step! Perhaps you can also visit the eateries you have been meaning to try for a while? It helped me a lot:) Being in nature has a really calming effect for me and it got me interested in hiking! Thank you for sharing OP
I am going to propose this to them. Thank you for sharing! US is like on the other side of the world lol but hopefully with a routine I can make it work. I’m also going to try the eateries, might be nice to go solo for once.
Hello @user2417
Just wanted to chip in. I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through a lot. Glad to hear that you’re going to try to do more physical activity, think @thursday shared to do some self-care activity like eating your favourite food and being in nature, she even shared how she cope with the time difference.
Personally, I found community support helpful, I do ad hoc volunteering to meet new people and do something meaningful. I know sometimes it can be hard but like taking your mind away from your troubles can be helpful.
I hope things do get better for you. Take care!
And if ever you feel that it gets too overwhelming, you can reach out.
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Hope this helps!
glad that helps as well and yes haha it is really a whole day time difference for us!
yes I agree! Volunteering to serve the elderly has helped me to meet with people from different ages, and it is always nice to have another perspective as well! Thanks for sharing:)
Dear @user2417
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you are going through. There are indeed many things going on - graduation, leaving friends in another country and a painful breakup. These are big transitions and it’s made tougher to navigate as they have all come together at the same time. It makes complete sense that you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and emotionally worn down.
Many of us can certainly identify with the constant sinking feeling you describe as you encounter loss and changes/transitions.
Even if you can’t find one clear trigger, that doesn’t mean your emotions aren’t valid. I believe you are reacting to a lot of pain.
Please know that you don’t need to have it all figured out. Crying, feeling stuck, not knowing what comes next—these are all natural responses to what you’re going through.
Here are a few suggestions of what you can try— it won’t fix everything, but may help you feel a little more steady:
-Go for a short walk around the block. Movement can help calm that anxious energy.
-Put on calming music or a comforting show —something that feels familiar and gentle on the heart.
-Try journaling- to allow your thoughts spill out without judgment. Find a quiet place and write freely.
-Do something with your hands drawing, baking, folding laundry, even playing a game. Sometimes tasks like these can reduce mental noise.
-Talk to someone like a friend, counsellor, or contact a helpline. You don’t have to explain everything. Just saying “I’m not okay” is enough.
You’re not alone in this, even if it feels like it right now. What you’re feeling is overwhelming but it won’t stay this way forever. Be gentle with yourself—one moment, one step at a time. I’m really glad you reached out, and all of us who have responded to your post look forward to your sharing on how you are doing. 