recently, my health has detoriated. Im in pain everyday due to my health issue, i was admitted for a week only for the doctors to not really find or have a solution to my pain. Reluctantly, i was discharged with medications. Although, the doctors say theres nothing serious going on thankfully but im just in pain, they also said it takes time to heal, but now its been weeks, my pain hasnt subside or got better, im simply frustrated and i can’t seem to overcome this adversity. I tried my best not to focus on the pain but i just can’t seem to be happy. I feel like im losing myself slowly, can i get some advice on how i shoud i cope physical pain?
Hey @usersunflower,
I hear you, and I can feel the weight of your words—the frustration, the exhaustion, the sense of being stuck in something that feels endless. Pain that lingers without answers can be one of the hardest things to endure, especially when all you want is to feel like yourself again.
Right now, it seems like you’re caught between two difficult truths: the doctors say there’s no serious cause for alarm, yet the reality is that you are still suffering. That’s incredibly frustrating, and I want to acknowledge that your pain is real, your frustration is valid, and this experience is extremely hard to go through.
You mentioned that you’re trying your best not to focus on the pain, but it still consumes you. That makes complete sense—our minds are wired to tune into discomfort as a survival instinct. Ignoring pain doesn’t always work because your body is still trying to tell you something. Maybe instead of resisting it completely, we can explore ways to work with it instead of against it.
Here are a few things I’d love for you to reflect on:
- Are there moments in the day where the pain feels even slightly more bearable? What’s happening in those moments? Is it a distraction, a position, an activity?
- What would it look like to find comfort in this discomfort? Not in the sense of accepting pain forever, but in finding small things that make it feel less suffocating—even just for a few minutes at a time.
- What does “healing” mean to you? If pain is still present, can healing be measured in other ways—like feeling more rested, feeling even a moment of peace, or feeling like you have control over how you respond to your body?
I know this might not be the advice you were expecting, because I don’t want to give you false hope or dismiss what you’re feeling. Instead, I want to remind you that you are still here, still looking for ways to move forward, and that means you haven’t lost yourself.
I won’t tell you to “stay strong” because I know you already are—what if, instead of strength, you gave yourself permission to simply be? No expectation, no rush, just a slow, compassionate process of listening to yourself, your body, and what it needs moment by moment.
thank you for advice, i will look into the questions and do a self reflection
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