i dont feel alive anymore

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as the title suggests, i dont feel alive anymore. ive looked at the comments left in my previous posts and ive gained some insight on how to manage my emotions better but now i just dont feel anything anymore. the activities that i like doing dont interest me anymore and its getting harder to eat stuff. i just eat for the sake of the nutrients. none of my friends want to go out with me (well, i have very few.) and whenever they agree to our plans get interrupted or they change their mind. theres is literally nothing eventful i can do for the remaining of the holidays and i genuinely dont remember feeling joy recently. (tw: sh) i started self harming like ctting my wrist because it feels good and i feel pain, and that reminds me that im alive. nowadays everything feels so monotonous, im stuck. i have no friends and i dont go out with my partner because hes not available. weve talked about it but im sure hes just gonna mia himself again if we agree to go out. im seriously stuck in a corner and cant help but cry and ct myself. i dont know what to do. i feel so numb.

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please im begging i need advice

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Hi @Throwawayacc,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing how you’re feeling—it’s a courageous step, even when everything feels so heavy. I can sense how overwhelming and isolating things are for you right now, and I want to acknowledge that your feelings are valid, even if they’re painful. Let’s work through this together.

Understanding Where You Are Right Now
From what you’ve shared, there’s a sense of deep numbness and disconnection from things that used to bring you joy, as well as a reliance on self-harm as a way to feel something. This is a clear sign that you’re in significant emotional distress. It’s not about being “weak” or “broken”—it’s about your brain and body trying to cope with overwhelming feelings and seeking ways to process them.

The fact that you’ve been able to recognize and articulate what’s happening is a powerful first step. You’re already demonstrating self-awareness, and that’s something we can build on.

Based on what you’ve mentioned about self-harm and feeling stuck, I need to check in:

  • Do you feel safe right now? If not, reaching out to a trusted adult, crisis hotline, or a mental health professional can provide immediate support.

  • Do you have thoughts of ending your life? If yes, please let someone know immediately—whether it’s a family member, partner, friend, or crisis service. You don’t have to go through this alone.

Here are some ways to gently work through what you’re feeling:

  1. Reach out for professional help.

    • You’ve mentioned gaining insight from your previous posts, which is a great start. Building on this, connecting with a therapist can give you a safe space to unpack the numbness, self-harm, and relationship challenges. Therapy is not about judgment—it’s about finding ways to feel better and reconnect with yourself.

  2. Create small moments of connection.

    • Even if friends or your partner aren’t as available as you’d like, consider reaching out to others (family, acquaintances, or even online communities). These small interactions might not replace what you’re looking for, but they can be meaningful steps to break the cycle of isolation.

  3. Set gentle, achievable goals.

    • Right now, energy and motivation might feel low, so focus on very small, actionable steps. For example:
      • Take a walk outside, even for 5 minutes.
      • Write down one thing you’re grateful for each day.
      • Try eating a meal you find comforting, even if it’s simple.

  4. Shift self-harm to self-care.

    • It’s understandable that self-harm might feel like a release right now, but it’s not a sustainable way to cope. Consider replacing it with something less harmful, like holding an ice cube, snapping a rubber band on your wrist, or drawing on your skin with a red pen to simulate the sensation without causing injury.

  5. Reclaim joy in small ways.

    • It’s okay if the things you used to enjoy don’t bring the same spark right now. Start small: watch a favorite show, listen to comforting music, or explore something new, like a hobby or craft. You don’t need to force joy—just allow yourself to be curious.

Your Worth and Your Future
You are not a burden, and you deserve care, support, and love—even if it’s hard to feel that way right now. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to not have all the answers. What matters is taking one small step at a time and allowing yourself to reach out for help when you need it.

Please keep sharing how you’re feeling—it’s an important part of processing and healing. You don’t have to do this alone, and there are people who genuinely want to support you, including me. You’ve already shown so much strength in expressing your emotions here, and I believe in your ability to take the next steps toward healing. :sparkling_heart:

Let me know how you’re feeling or if there’s anything more specific you’d like to discuss. You’re not alone in this. :star2:

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Get professional help. U will start to feel feelings again when u r not depressed. Speaking as someone who went thru it. U can go for a hike or walk n chat w me on a weekend if u want

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hey @throwawayacc
thanks for reaching out, it must have been difficult dealing with this feeling of loneliness all by yourself, especially when your friends and partner aren’t always available for you. if possible, i would suggest seeking professional help to help you deal with those feelings of numbness and help you reconnect with yourself. but in the mean time, you can try some easy to do activities that you could try to make life feel a bit more eventful, even if you’re doing them by yourself. for example you can take a walk to a park, café, or area you’ve never been to before. sometimes a change of scenery helps. you can also watch movies or tv series, listen to music, or play online games. feel free to chat more on lets talk too. you are not alone, we are all here for you :blush:

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