Hi guys I am in my early 30s and I feel like my mood could go from a 0 to 100 real quick and a 100 to 0 real quick, i have my moments where I feel I can accomplish anything and everything and thn th next I feel I hate everybody and that I hate life itself.
Ive read up on articles where more females discover they actually do have ADHD when they reach a certain age and that usually is in th early. 30s and for some its to a middle or late 30s.
I took the adhd test ive got a severe adhd its like a pre test to see if you might have it and th fact tht i cn go all excited planning for one’s bday and its like a bestfriend’s bday and I wake up tht day feeling at a damn 0, I would bail on everyone and just stay at hme. I plan so much bt it seems out of reach.
How do I seek help here ? Is it a must to get help? My attention is very fast interrupted and i cant focus on just 1 thing.
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Hey @user0542,
What you described, it feels like you’re living through a rollercoaster experience. One moment full of drive, the next, everything collapses. Reading how you can plan something joyful like a best friend’s birthday and then wake up that day unable to move, it sounds exhausting and confusing too. When your energy keeps spiking and crashing, it’s hard to know which “you” is the real one.
It’s true that many women only discover ADHD traits later in life, often after years of forcing themselves to keep up. But sometimes what looks like ADHD overlaps with mood or emotional regulation differences, and only a proper assessment (with a psychiatrist or psychologist) can tell them apart. The online tests can be helpful to be reflective but they show possibilities and not conclusive.
For now, do you notice what’s usually happening around you when your energy surges or drops? Is it after stress, lack of sleep, or conflict? This kind of tracking can help the professional see patterns clearly later on.
It’s understandable if you’ve been hard on yourself, your mind’s been running marathons without rest, I would like for you to get tools that actually fit your mind and here’s one to begin, If things ever swing too far and you feel unsafe or hopeless, please reach out right away: you can call SOS 1767 or Mindline 1771 anytime, or chat via WhatsApp.
Let us know how you feel? Just share what it’s been like noticing these ups and downs
Hey today I woke up feeling nothing at all like its a constant battle I have to face everyday. Waking up one day feeling th most happiest and luckiest to still be alive, i head in th showers singing and happy and stuffs ya knw like starting my day right and just as I am reaching work, I start hating it. I start feeling at a 0. There are days I suddenly cant even function at work. I just dont want to work like my mind and body just jams. And there are days I get my work done like way ahead of given expected deadline. Thn its like i dnt even knw if its adhd also at this point. Time check is 12.48am SG timing and tbh, i am feeling just not wanting to talk. I am so quiet. Im to my phone just lost here and there in my own world. Bt im well aware whats going on you get me? You are very right. Its very draining. My partner thinks i dnt care abt her and stuffs bt to be honest, i do i just wanna ve to nyself. Ive read upt bipolar disorder as well. It seems a little bit of both. Bt its getting like more emotional and i kp telling myself maybe its just my period its otw bt even after th cycle of th mth is gone, it is still th same. Is it normal? Like do I rlly need help?
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Hey, it’s okay that you’re unsure if it’s adhd, hormones, or mood. The truth is, only a proper check-in with a psychiatrist or psychologist can sort that puzzle out. What matters now is that these are real for you, and you don’t have to keep guessing.
For tonight, maybe just focus on gentle things that help your body know it’s safe. Slow breaths, warm water, dim light and if at any point the quiet turns too heavy or you feel unsafe, please reach out right away to SOS 1767 or Mindline 1771 (you can WhatsApp them here).