I recently graduated from a program called work study diploma. The program is 2.5 years and i have to serve a bond of 1 year with the company. For the first 2 years, i was doing 12 hour shifts (both day and night) and juggling school. I live in the east area and i work all th way in jurong island.
In May this year, i was moved to another department that required me to work office hours only. I was relived as i would have more time for myself and my family.
The change was a big one as i have been wanting to learn how to navigate the different systems in the company so that i can up-skill myself. That was what i thought the company would do when i first joined.
Its been 6 months in this new department and i feel like im a complete failure. I always mess up big time. I will always pick myself up and learn. However, i tend to make mistakes when i learn something simple even.
My managers did a sit down session with me and graded me on my performance. Whatever he said, i took it too hard because i feel that im just trying my very best to adjust. When i think ive got it all figured out, i mess up big time again.
I have lost all my confidence and my self esteem and i always overthink about my actions and words. Whenever i get home from work, i dont want to eat, i just want to shower and get to bed and do it all over again.
Thank you for sharing your challenges faced in this transition period from the shift of work. It sounds difficult as you’re still adjusting with the new department and workload, at the same time, I am also hearing abt your motivation to upskill yourself which I thought is a positive mindset in advancing growth for you
Just curious about how was your previous work experience for you, it sounds equally challenging as you’re tasked with 12-Hr shifts and school. I’m curious in how you manage to deal with it?
Thank you for being so open—it sounds like you’ve been carrying a lot on your shoulders, and it’s completely understandable that it feels overwhelming. Adjusting to a new department and schedule is a big change, and it’s clear you’re putting in a lot of effort.
It can be really difficult when you’re trying your best, but it feels like it’s not enough. Sometimes, we tend to focus more on what went wrong instead of recognizing the hard work we’re already doing. The fact that you keep going, even when it’s challenging, shows resilience—don’t overlook that.
I understand how hearing feedback at work can be tough, especially when you’re doing everything you can to adjust. One thing that might be helpful is to note down one thing that went well each day, even if it feels small. Over time, these small steps could help rebuild that confidence bit by bit.
If overthinking becomes overwhelming, perhaps try grounding yourself with a moment of deep breathing, especially after work, to ease into relaxation without self-judgment. Remember, growth takes time, and every effort counts. Be kind to yourself along the way. You’re doing more than you might think, and we’re here to support you in whatever way you need.
Thank you for sharing about how you feel. I could see myself and my own experiences while reading through your post. I’m someone who overthinks and can sometimes take criticisms too personally. I think it is really commendable that you are putting in the effort to want to improve yourself, and make fewer mistakes.
Please remember that you are not alone in this! Sometimes we just need to take a break and internalise our own feelings. Do remember to practise self compassion and remind yourself of your strengths as well! I can feel that you are someone who is resilient and hardworking.
Please take care and I wish things get better over time for you😊. Let’s work on ourselves one step at a time, and we will get there eventually.
