I did not get selected and I feel depressed

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I’m 15, studying Sec 3 in a secondary school and got selected for an interview about Student Coucnil Leadership. But when the result is out, I realised that I did not get selected. When I received this from my teacher, I am disappointed about the results.

Back in primary school, I was happy to get a student council leadership and help everyone do beach clean-ups and investitures. I felt like a better girl in my primary school and help my friends educate to be more helpful and considerate. When I was in P6, the school gave me a teddy bear, cherishing my life on the investiture. I was so happy before my PSLE starts.

Moreover, it is a good role to be a student Councillor back in primary school.

Suddenly, I just got in to secondary school to make things better. Turns out? It got worse. When I reached secondary 2, my form teacher said that there are no student councillors selected because he was lazy.

Presently, my secondary 3 teacher picked me and Dave to interview the student Council teachers. I was looking forward to the interview. After the interview, the situation gone downhill. I was stunned. Disappointed by the fact that I was not selected, my friend said, “I feel bad for you” like a feather. He wants to resolve it for me. Then, I had a conversation with my mum and she says that there are too many people and can only pick a handful. My friend, however guessed that I had behavourial issues and that is not the point. My friend wants to blame my school about the Student Council Leadership Program and I don’t know why.

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Hi @positiveprairie4067 ! I hear that that you’re really disappointed with the results. It seems like you’ve had such a meaningful experience in primary school with student council ~ the beach clean-ups, the investiture, the teddy bear and it clearly meant a lot to you. Wanting to carry that forward into secondary school is completely understandable.

The leadership qualities you showed in primary school, the care for others, the initiative, the desire to make things better, those don’t disappear just because you didn’t get a title. There are often other ways to contribute to school, whether through CCAs, class roles, or just being the kind of person your friends can count on.

Have you thought about in future, some kind of leadership position is something you want to try out?

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How do I calm down? Like I don’t know what to do. I was stressed, upset and sad. I also cried. I just cry in my room to refelct what I have done in the interview itself, but there’s no help to care for me. The friends I know today, have successfully entered the Student Council Team, and I was the odd one out. I feel lonely, upset, stressed and overwhelmed with my emotions or otherwise. I know they are supportive, but for some reason, they let me down for the first time. That makes my future career affected with negative thoughts.