I don’t know how to get out of this

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I don’t know what to do.

for context: I’m currently the president of my club, in the best class of my grade, and have been failing chemistry for 2 terms straight

I don’t know what to do. My life is basically what last year me would’ve wanted, and i’m still ■■■■■■■ it up. I have good friends right now and am doing well in competitions yet i’m flunking my academics because i’ve been so ■■■■■■■ busy. Compared to last year, when I was such a loner, had no friends, was flunking almost every single competition, had my entire schedule cleared (which was a cause of concern) and was getting straight As. Why can’t I have all three? It seems as though if i want good grades, i’d have to sacrifice my friends or my extra-curriculars, but if i want friends I have to sacrifice my grades or my competitions. I don’t know what to do and i don’t know how to get out of this situation. My mom’s also pretty disappointed in me, asking questions such as “are you sure you’ve tried hard enough?” and “you should reflect on whether you’ve really put in effort or not” but i’m trying. I’m trying so damn hard and but it’s so damn tough and i don’t know what to do

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hello :slight_smile: seems like we are in almost the same situation? As a person who went through this at the start of the year (and yes i failed chem wa2), i think its okay to take a breather sometimes. just take a rest day block out your phone and ur pld? you do not have to have all 3 on your plate yk esp if its o level season prioritise what you need. and about friends, you really need them like a solid social circle yk? and try your best to study as much as possible okay? go for consults with your teachers if you need to and just put in ur best effort. ik you are trying already and proud of you for that! All the best! i am sure if u put in effort, u will do well for EOYs okayyy! RMB TO TAKE A BREATHERRR! rooting for you :slight_smile:

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Dear @user1329

Thank you for reaching out to share your challenges. I think what you are experiencing resonates with many students who faced similar stresses. You are certainly not alone.

Do be kind to yourself as you navigate through this. I can see you are determined to to figure out the most ideal balance needed to juggle school, home, friends and CCAs.

If possible speak to a trusted person such as a a family member, teacher or counsellor for guidance to identify your priorities and what you want to achieve in different aspects of your life. I believe it will help you make decisions on what to do cut down and what to do more of. Ensure you are also getting enough rest and sleep to recharge and recover, too.

With a bit of trial and error you will find the right balance you need to thrive. :yellow_heart: