I feel really happy that my friend have confident to confess to her crush, i know I should be happy, but I am not, I have to make up white lies to her, she seems really happy now with a companion, but her boyfriend is my crush too. If i told her, I may hurt her feelings and if I don’t I am the on that would feel hurt.
i aways go with honesty is the best policyyyy. anything else always feels like a heavy weight on my chest and in my mind…
if your intentions are kind and your feelings are genuine and your approach in communication is gentle and you find the right time and space to talk to your friend, i believe an honest conversation can be the way forward… i know its a lot of factors to consider, feels like the stars all need to align or sth… but i feel like that would be how i plan to approach this tough situation youre in if im youuu.
it may not work out the way you want to, you dont know how your friend may react, but that you cant control, we can only manage that. but you can control what you choose to do now and that then defines who you choose to be at each moment forward. 
the hurt may be unavoidable somehow, but with genuine friendship between you two, i believe things will work out the way it goes, and yall’s friendship will grow along this experience, no matter what u choose to do at the end of the day~
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Hi jerlyne2024.Bong
Thank you for the courage to acknowledge how you feel about your friend and the dilemma you are in.
On the one hand, you appreciate your friend and your friendship. It has gotten to a stage where your friend trusts you and shared with you that she expressed her feelings to a boy who has accepted her.
However, on the other hand, it’s understandable that you feel sad because you happen to like the same boy.
Though you are hurting, I see that you are considerate and don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings and thus not telling her how you truly feel.
Your confusion and feelings are 100% valid and real. It is indeed a difficult situation to be in.
Speaking to a therapist or a trusted family member could help to lessen the pain and sadness.
Do be gentle with yourself as you journey through this difficult period. Take time to self care, relax and participate in hobbies you enjoy.
I agree it is hurting and triggering to see them together. You may want to consider to widen your circle of friends and discover and learn new and enjoyable activities. It may take your mind off your friend and her new boyfriend. You may even discover new aspects of yourself that could lead to self-growth.
May I encourage you to also reflect what would telling your friend you are crushing on her boyfriend achieve? What would the impact on your friendship be?
Take it slow and be kind to yourself. Slowly the grip this incident has on you would lessen. 