hi, I just wanted to rant abt my feelings in terms of my guy friend whos pretty close to me. I’ve been having conflicting feelings (platonic and romantic) for him for a while now and its fleeting and it has yet come back again. We both have very similar interests and hang out alot, and I can’t help but factor in that we’d be great for each other. But on the other hand, I really don’t see it to be a realistic thing, and I already had tried to bring up the idea of like dating friends etc etc and he doesn’t seem to budge. I was wondering if anyone has any advice on moving on or trying to get these feelings out without ruining the friendship that would great
Hello @user7902 thank you for sharing this. It makes a lot of sense that you’re feeling conflicted. It’s completely normal to have both platonic and romantic feelings for someone you’re close to, especially when you share so many interests and spend a lot of time together. It also shows a lot of self-awareness that you’re considering what’s realistic and trying to think ahead about your friendship.
One thing that might help is to gently reflect on your feelings first, understanding what you’re hoping for and what you can realistically expect. If you feel safe doing so, you could have an open, honest conversation with him about your feelings. Even if he doesn’t feel the same way, sometimes sharing can bring clarity and help you move forward without leaving things unsaid.
If a conversation doesn’t feel right or possible, another approach is to focus on the foundation of your friendship and the shared interests and the qualities that made you close. Engaging in other friendships or hobbies can also help you create some emotional space to process your feelings without putting pressure on the friendship.
Whatever you choose, it’s completely valid to have mixed feelings, and it’s okay to take time to figure out what’s best for you while preserving the friendship.
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thank you for the advice!! will def take this into consideration <3
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hey @user7902
Thanks for sharing on Let’s Talk about this 
. It’s completely okay to have conflicting feelings and it is good that you are self-aware about how you feel while being considerate of yourself and your friend 
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Another advice I can give is to perhaps talk to a trusted friend/family (who perhaps does not know this guy friend of urs to keep the confidentiality of it). They will probably understand your situation and personality better and give you advice based on your personality and his personality. Not sure if this is good advice because I am not too familiar with the dating/friendship romantic scene 
hello, I understand that you really treasure your friendship with him and understanding your emotions will help greatly. I really agree that taking sometime off and reflect will help, and getting a third perspective can help you as well. also, I believe that you might also want to consider your resp, (such as schooling, exams or work), how would you juggle your commitments.
also, just want to reaffirm it is alright to take time to sort things out, rooting for you <3