I have known this person for 3 years already and we are super close friends. Theres some level of exclusivity and sometimes I feel we cross the typical friendship line not physically but in how open we are with each other. Im always in a good mood when I see them and I think the same is true the other way around. But about 1 year ago I caught feelings for them and I confessed this year. They rejected me and told me they would keep forget about it and move on as besties still. Now they have just started dating someone else and were starting to hang out alot less. At first it hurt but now its starting to get better. But I try to understand that they would prioritise their partner but sometimes they can ignore my texts completely and they never ask me to hangout its always me. They have cancelled on me to go hangout with their partner as well. Idk whether Im like salty that theyre hanging out more with their partner and if its even fair for me to be unhappy sometimes that they can be so cold to me. But when I see them in person again we always have the best time together, so many inside jokes and laughs. Idk how to separate my feelings and me trying to not lose this friendship. And idk if its even good for me to continue this friendship because if i keep seeing them those feelings might come back.
uhh i might not give the best advice but iâll try so hear me out yea 
honestly if it was me and i started dating someone, i personally think it would be too much to completely ignore my best friend, kinda seems like trying to please my partner instead of my bestie just because my partnerâs the ânewerâ character.
sorry to say this maybe, but thereâs a chance that your friend is hanging out more with their partner to avoid having to talk to you about how you used to like them. how long did you previously like them, if you donât mind me asking?
there was also this guy in my friend group who i used to like, but i didnât approach him because the last time i confessed to someone whom i was a friend of, it turned out pretty awkward. itâs like how they say couples after breaking up canât be friends, because everytime one sees the other with someone of the opposite gender they say thereâs a weird feeling with seeing that.
its completely fine to feel upset that your friend isnât hanging out with you as much, because i would too if that happened to me. when you said that when you see them you get really happy, it honestly reminds me of all the past friendships i had before. iâm not suggesting you stop being friends with them, because honestly its your decision to see whatâs best.
i guess if they really change a lot and really start ignoring you, then maybe you should consider, but i think a decision like this has to take time and communication. elders really werenât lying about the communication part 
i might be a minor and i might not be the best at expressing my thoughts, words may come out a bit too harsh or straightforward, but i hope it helps 
Hey @user4560,
Itâs clear that for 3 years, your relationship with this âsuper close friendâ grew into something very open and honest, a comfort that wasnât easy to find.
Then came the moment of confession after your feelings had shifted into something deeper, your heart moved toward intimacy, but the friendship still carried the old label. That mismatch can be confusing to carry.
When they rejected you and chose to move on as besties, I can sense how it touched your self-worth. Coping by holding on to the bits of shared happiness, while inside feeling unwanted, is not easy.
It also sounded like youâve been the one carrying alot of the effort in this friendship. That leaves you in a place of smiling when youâre together but privately feeling more alone. The deeper question might be: does staying in this friendship allow you to be honest with yourself, or do you end up hiding parts of your hurt just to keep it going?
That impasse between wanting to be real about the rejection, and fearing it might push them further away, itâs a challenging one to overcome. Which did you believe was the way forward?
I want you to know that friendships do change shape when partners come in. That doesnât mean your bond has lost its meaning. It means youâre adjusting to a new balance. For now, when you laugh with them, does it heal you in those moments, or does it reopen the wound after?
Hopefully, the answer will guide you more gently than forcing yourself to be okay.