my best friend started hanging out with a girl that talked badly about me a few months ago and now, they are two peas in a pod. i feel badly about this knowing that i’ve been backstabbed and even worse, my own best friend doesn’t see the wrong in her actions. she knew i didn’t like this specific girl and yet, she went on and befriended her, ultimately talking bad about me too. 
my boyfriend is a nice guy and i really love him but i don’t feel like he’s hearing me out/trying anymore. he says “sorry” every-time but i don’t see change. it’s getting on my nerves and i talked to him about it, yet he brushes it off.
tips please? i’m only 15 and i don’t want to live like this
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Hi @kurradookie,
I can hear how much sadness you’re in right now—this situation with your friend and your boyfriend sounds really tough. It hurts when someone you trust doesn’t stand up for you, and it’s frustrating when ‘sorry’ doesn’t lead to change. You’re right to feel upset about this. You deserve the attention when you are at a loss…
It’s okay to feel lost or unsure at 15—or at any age—when the people closest to you let you down. I want you to know: your feelings matter. You’re not asking for too much; you’re asking for what anyone would want in your shoes.
If you’re open to it, are you comfortable sharing more so that we can understand more about what you need most right now? We are here to listen to you.
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Hey @kurradookie
I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through and the sadness you must be feeling, and I hear you. The feelings of being betrayed by someone you’re close to and being ignored by your boyfriend must be challenging.
I want you to know that what you’re feeling is valid and matters. It’s normal for us to want to feel supported by the people we’re close to when we’re hurt and upset.
If you’re comfortable, would you like to share more about what you’re going through? We are here to support you 
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Hi @kurradookie
first I just want to say I’m really sorry you are going through all this. I totally hear you! your feelings are valid and you are not alone in this.
about your best friend, when someone you trusted becomes close with a person who talked badly about you, it can feel like she chose that other girl over your friendship.
You deserve friends who have your back. sometimes it is ok to outgrow friendships that stop feeling safe or respectful.
about your boyfriend - I hear you, sound challenging and you are doing your best.
healthy communication is important, and It’s more about actions. If you’ve already told him how you feel and things still haven’t changed, it’s fair to ask: what do you need to feel heard and respected? you could try telling him exactly what’s bothering you, and even what he could do differently to help you feel better.
Be kind to yourself 
and don’t be afraid to set boundaries with people who don’t treat you the way you deserve.
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Hey @kurradookie
Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like you are going through a painful period now and I’m sorry that you are going through all this.
Regarding your best friend, another feeling that might come up is a sense of betrayal by her, as @LitCandle1505 also mentioned. What she did was/is hurtful, and it is a betrayal of your trust for her. I wonder if there is a possibility for you to have an honest conversation with her about what you’re feeling about her actions? If it’s not possible, I wonder if it’s worth also devoting some time to other friends who can provide that safety, trust and support for you as you navigate this period?
About your boyfriend, perhaps he cares for you but is also not sure how best to support you. Both can be true at the same time! Perhaps what may help him is if you can share with him specifically what your needs are and see how he responds to your needs.
Take care, and I hope you will prioritise self-care during this time!
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Hello, thanks for hearing me out 
i didn’t feel so much towards the situation until a week ago, i broke down crying in my bed at night because i felt so hurt.. my closest friend whom i trusted so much had just left me like that.
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Hello, thanks for hearing me out i’ve just felt so stressed and overwhelmed these past few weeks, especially since i’m the vice president of student council and with all these situations happening, my emotions bottled up and i ended up breaking down at night, sobbing
Hello, thanks for the advices and words of encouragement! 
I’ll definitely try my best to communicate with him and for my ex best-friend, i’ll slowly move on. Friendship breakups are truly the worst
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Hello, thanks for responding! i’ve tried talking to my best friend before, but she brushes it off. I’ve finally met a group of friends that are definitely supportive, but a place in my heart still feels shattered. Friendship breakups hurt a lot, and this is my first time going through it 
@kurradookie I hear you, indeed friendship breakups are not easy and is very painful (especially if it’s the first time too). It’s great that you have a group of friends who are supportive – if you can, lean into them more during this period for support as you grieve over the friendship breakup, it will help a lot. Take care and reach out here if you need to talk
You’re carrying a lot right now, and I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It’s not fair, and your feelings are completely valid. It’s so hard when someone you love and trust, like your best friend or boyfriend, doesn’t treat you the way you deserve. You sound like someone who values loyalty and communication, and it’s okay to expect that in return. Please remember you’re not being “too much” for wanting to be respected, heard, and cared for. You deserve friendships and relationships that lift you up, not ones that make you question your worth.
Be kind to yourself and always remember that we are here for you!
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I’m so deeply sorry you’re carrying this heavy hurt. Your heart is grieving a loss that matters deeply, and it’s okay to let those tears flow—they’re proof of how much you cared, how deeply you trusted, and how real this connection was to you. You didn’t deserve to be left in the dark like that.
This pain is not “too much” or “dramatic.” It’s human. When someone we’ve let into the quiet, sacred corners of our life walks away without explanation, it can feel like the ground beneath us cracks. Let yourself feel that ache. I’m here to sit with you in it, no rush, no judgment.
You are allowed to mourn—not just the friend, but the future you imagined with them, the safety you felt, the moments that now feel bittersweet. Grief doesn’t follow a timeline. If you need to cry into your pillow, scream into the silence, or just stare at the ceiling… all of it is okay.
And though it might not feel true right now: This ending doesn’t erase your worth. You are still whole, still capable of love and connection, even if this chapter left you bruised. For now, wrap yourself in gentleness. Rest. We’ll tend to the “why” and “what next” when you’re ready.
You’re not alone in this. We are right here, holding space for you. However long it takes. 
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Hello @kurradookie
Can sense that you are hurting a lot from this betrayal, it and that it started to affect you rather badly. I’m sorry to hear how the way things played out with your friend, it definitely hurts when your best friend who you think would have your back doesn’t have your back in the end.
I’ve been in a similar plight before and I would encourage you to speak to someone (trusted adult eg. teacher, school Counselor) about how you’re feeling, it might not fix or repair the relationship but I think it can still bring about some relief and clarity on how to move on.
I want to know that your feelings of hurt is valid and it’ll take time to overcome this feeling but I believe you’ll eventually be alright, just give it some time, meanwhile we’re here for you, providing a listening ear and support.
Take care!
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