I feel like i dont belong in my fg

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hi so basically everything have been going downhill. i dont think my friends are suited for me… Its basically exam period and recently i have been choosing to study alone instead of eating with my friends. But my friends did not even seem to care and go down as a fg without me, sometimes without even asking if I want to go down. And they arent rlly the helpful type either they wouldnt stay back and help me with my work/ help me cope with pressure or even helping me buy food up. Additionally, recently i got a bad mark on a mock paper and it was so obvious that i cried.. even though they asked me if i cried they DID NOT say anything more than that. After asking they simply left and went to yap with other people… making me feel unseen and that no one cares about me. Hoenstly they may even be happy i got a bad grade because its so competitive in my sch. sigh

furthermore i had tension with 1 person in my 5 ppl fg recently and it is awkward af to be arnd her. Also it feels like my bestie is leaving me frm smone else in the fg… i think because i’ve been studying a lot and she thinks im not fun anymmmm?? But anyway its rlly sad last time she wasnt a good bestie either she always had mood swings and made me feel excluded sometimes, along with how manipulative she is.

I hate ml bru theres friendship issue and overwhelming pressure from exams. honestly idw to go to sch anymore, i would rather study at home myself (the teachers arent that helpful anyways) Today, school is agony… i decided to hangout with them for lunch and i jsut felt so out of place, and i desperately wanted to leave. It was js so awkward esp how when i walk up to class and i was in front of the fg no one walked beside me or talked to me and they js yapped tg behind. It feels like im js not wanted disposable.. So honestly i hate it so sosossoosos much i cant bear it anymore i rlly want to escape this mental torture maybe leave the fg ? idk if that will bring me more peace or more harm. Because if i leave, ill prob have no one to even talk to or hangout with. idk what to dooooooooooooooo

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Dear @thankfulvalley9811

Thank you for reaching out. I can sense how hurt you are. Feeling left out by your friends while dealing with exam stress is understandably painful and lonely. It makes sense that you feel unseen and exhausted.

I think that it is important to focus on protecting your own peace as a priority. If studying alone helps you feel calmer, please continue to do so. You do not have to force yourself to stay close to a group that makes you feel worse.

I have seen that sometimes friendships in school can shift a lot, especially during exams when everyone is stressed and competitive. That does not imply you are expendable or that no one cares about you.

Try to take things one day at a time and focus on getting through this period. You deserve friends who make you feel supported and valued. You’re not alone in wanting to meet this human need for yourself. :yellow_heart:

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