I hate myself so much that i feel my children dont deserve me. I felt bringing them to this world makes them suffer along side w me.
I felt i brought them bad luck for being my children. Ppl judge them because they have a mom like me. Even my own maternal family are not surprised when they have bad results because they are my children.
I hate myself that i cant speak to anyone about my issues. Not even open up. Cos im afraid they see me as negative. Even my own siblings, i cant tell the anything cos they will say i brought it upon myself. Not encouraging words whatsoever.
I hate myself i cant quit my job and be home w my children. Because of the high expenses and living.
I hate myself for friends taking me for granted.
I hate myself i am always feeling so lethargic that i dont even want to head out. I just want to lay on my bed at home. Avoiding interaction with anyone.
Thank you for opening up to me . It must be really difficult for you as of now . Pls know that you deserve so much love, kindness and care in this world. You’re not alone . . And neither that you’re a burden .
You must be feeling resentful because you feel that you could have provided a better life for ur children, and it is normal to feel that . However I’m sure your children are aware that you’re doing your best to raise them. And it must not be easy too, knowing that there are days that you doubt yourself. Pls be aware that help is all around you. Do reach out to ur family members for help, or ur close friends for a listening ear or u can talk to SOS : via 1-767(on WhatsApp) or National Mindline 1-771 if you need a listening ear .
Slow down with me for a moment, ok? It is clear that a part of you that’s been blamed and judged for years is finally shouting. I want you to know that we hear you. You’ve been running around, trying to meet everyone’s expectations, and now the pain is unbearable. You’ve been carrying so much and yet, you are there for everyone including your children. That’s not nothing. That’s very important for you as a mother.
You need care, so stay safe tonight. Call 1-767 (Samaritans of Singapore) to reach out when it feels suffocating. If you prefer to WhatsApp 9151-1767, or message Mindline’s counsellors (1771). they can hold the space with you.
Hey, it’s not for you to carry this shame any more, not even on your own for a minute. Your children need you. Let’s just keep you safe right now, even if it’s just to say “I can’t do this alone.”
Everyone feels helpless at a certain point in life. No exception. Not even our great LKY.
If that is the case, what about those who bring their children into this world, but only to abandon and/or abuse them?
Nowadays people judge everyone. And people just like to shame people who do things differently from them. Well…..not all kids thrived in academics.
There is always family service centres with counsellors that is there to listen as long as you are willing to rant at them.
well…..there is always options. And alternatives. from jobs at food delivery riders to starting homebased business. And also remote jobs. There always a saying spend within own means. I always heard about single parents of 3 kids surviving with just barely $1000//mth. Pretty sure your son need to go to school and you can spend the time he is in school to do some freelance jobs.
So why not hate your friends instead and move away from them?
negative emotions is very tiring thing to have. And very toxic to. But its good to be away from society stress once in awhile to muster your thoughts and rebuild your plans.
If that happens, who will be there for your kids? Trust me, kids without parents are worse than anything you mentioned above.
I’d like to invite you to pause with me for a moment and just breathe. You’ve been running on empty, trying to meet everyone’s needs while carrying years of blame and judgment, and now the pain is spilling over. That part of you that’s been silenced is finally shouting, and I want you to know we’re here, listening without turning away.
You’ve faced so much rejection and still shown up for your children, for work, for life. And that matters deeply. But right now, it’s too heavy to carry alone, and you deserve real, immediate care to help you stay safe.
Please call 1771 (National Mindline) if you need to speak to someone urgently. You don’t have to be on the edge to reach out; they’re there 24/7 when it feels unbearable. If texting is easier, you can WhatsApp the service +65 6669 1771. They can stay with you through this moment.
Your children don’t need a perfect mother. They just need you, a parent who’s trying their best. So reach out. That’s enough to begin.
Call 1-767 (Samaritans of Singapore) to reach out when it feels suffocating. If you prefer to WhatsApp 9151-1767, or message Mindline’s counsellors (1771). they can hold the space with you.