it’s so frustrating everytime i’m on my period because i get horrible cramps and even walking to the bathroom hurts. i’m in so much pain that i can’t even get life done (can’t study, always trying to sleep it off). i have tuition today and i really want to attend online instead because i can’t bring myself to attend physically. but my annoying dad doesn’t understand the pain and he says normal people should not have such bad pain and it should not be this debilitating (he says this everytime im dying in pain) and if it is this bad something is wrong and i should go see a doctor and get surgery. he’s forcing me to go because he says he didn’t pay so much money for me to attend online… is it really this unusual to be dying because of cramps because so many people online like on ig or yt comments section mostly also seem to go through such horrible pain so am i abnormal or does my dad just not understand the female body 
Oh mannnn, I totally feel you. I’m sorry to hear that your cramps are so debilitating!! I just wanted to say that you’re not alone. I get really bad cramps for the first 2 days of my period cycle too. It makes it so hard to get anything done like what you said, and not everyone (male/female alike) would really understand… my dad has actually said the same thing to me too, but I think he said it out of concern. At least that’s how I’d like to look at it haha. He told me to go and get it checked since it was so painful just to make sure that everything is ok. And so I did just in case! I guess there’s no harm in checking if you’re concerned?
On another note - is there anything that would help alleviate the pain even a little for you? Painkillers aren’t really effective for me but I find that heat packs do give me some comfort (although I still can’t really focus on anything, it helps with the pain a little). My period cycles are also quite regular so I can usually more or less guesstimate when my period would be coming and as far as possible I try not to schedule any social activities beyond what’s really necessary on those days.
Anyway, I hope you find some comfort in knowing that you are not alone! I hope you feel better soon 
Hello! I’m not a professional but I hope this helps 
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You aren’t alone in this and I can totally relate to the period cramps and pain as well! For me, it is as bad as I cannot move and I’m pretty much confined to the bed unless I take penadol HAHA. If you are worried about the pain of it, you can always get a medical checkup by the doctor, it is totally your decision though - don’t get pressured by your father! It is understandable that you’re frustrated because I will definitely be if I were you in your shoes so just wanna applaud you for staying strong 
! Make sure to rest, practice self care and know your limits! You know what’s best for your body !
Dear @manda1 ,
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re struggling with your period cramps. 
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through. It takes courage to open up about challenges like this - well done! 
It’s completely normal to feel frustrated when period pain interferes with your daily activities. Period pain varies from person to person, and it can be challenging to deal with. It’s also natural to feel the need to rest more during your period. Despite facing these difficulties, it sounds like you are resilient and determined to find solutions.
Severe menstrual cramps are not uncommon, but they shouldn’t be so debilitating that they significantly disrupt your daily life. In recent years, more people have bravely shared their experiences of enduring intense period pains, which may be influenced by various factors, including changes in modern-day lifestyle. However, it’s essential to recognise that such intense pain could signal an underlying issue, such as endometriosis, fibroids, or hormonal imbalances. Seeking advice from a healthcare professional is crucial in these situations. Remember, surgery isn’t always the sole solution. Consulting with a doctor about your pain can be the first step towards experiencing a more manageable menstrual cycle. They can provide a thorough assessment and recommend appropriate treatments, which may include medication, lifestyle adjustments, or alternative therapies. Rest assured, there are numerous options available to help alleviate severe menstrual pain and improve your overall well-being.
Several factors can impact period cramps, including stress, diet, and lifestyle habits. It might be helpful to also explore these factors to identify any patterns or triggers that worsen your symptoms. Tracking your cycle could provide valuable insights.
Since this is a recurring issue every month, it could be beneficial to plan ahead and discuss potential solutions with your dad. When you’re both feeling calm, have a chat and share with him how you’re feeling and outline the steps you’ve already taken to manage the pain. Negotiating with him on finding a balance that works for both of you could alleviate some stress.
Remember, your pain is valid, and it’s important to take it seriously. You’re not alone in this, and many people face similar challenges. Finding ways to reduce the pain can significantly improve your quality of life. It’s possible to have a period with only minor discomforts, and you deserve to feel comfortable and supported during this time.
I hope the above has been helpful and if you’d like more resources or if there is anything else you’d like to share with us, please do. We’re here to listen to you, your feelings are valid and you matter! 
Take care,
CoolBreeze =)