Everyday im more and more convienced i have BPD. This isnt a new thought or anything , i’ve suspected it since about 3 years ago? And it’s been getting worse and worse recently
I fit into eight of the 9 main symptoms of BPD. I know BPD is very hard to dignose cause it overlaps with many other disorders. I’ve taken many online tests and even paid for some (dumb ik, but im desperate) and they all come back with a high chance of bpd. I’ve also sort of done my own resreach about BPD and similar disorders and im so incredibly convinced i have it. I’m not going to talk about my symptoms cause thats private but i swear i fit into everything.
I don’t have the best relationship with my family so i don’t feel comfortable at all opening up to them or asking for help. I’m still a minor though and i dont know how to seek help without letting my parents be informed. I dont know what to do and i think i’m reallu so lost.
does anyone have any tips or anything idk
Thank you for sharing this so courageously with us. Feeling so convinced something is wrong, while also feeling stuck and unable to access help, can be incredibly overwhelming especially when you’re trying to make sense of it at a young age. It makes sense that you feel lost.
One thing I want to gently say is that your distress is valid regardless of whether the label ends up being BPD or something else. Many conditions overlap, and intense symptoms don’t become “less real” just because a diagnosis is uncertain. Online tests and research can sometimes help people feel less alone, but they can also increase anxiety and make everything feel more urgent and heavy, so please don’t be hard on yourself for trying to find answers.
Because you’re a minor, the system can feel especially limiting, but you may have more options than it seems. A school counsellor, psychologist, or trusted teacher can often be a starting point, they’re usually trained to talk through mental health concerns and can explain what confidentiality looks like in your area before you share anything. Some clinics and helplines also offer confidential guidance for minors and can talk you through next steps without immediately involving parents.
It might also help to shift the goal slightly for now from “proving” a diagnosis to “getting support for what I’m experiencing.” You don’t need to have everything figured out to deserve help. A professional’s role is to sort through the complexity with you, not to judge or dismiss what you’re feeling.
You’re not weak, dramatic, or “too much” for feeling this way. You’re someone who’s trying to understand yourself and get support in a really hard situation. I hope you keep reaching out whether here or to someone offline because you don’t have to navigate this alone.
Hey user964095,
I’m not here to dismiss what you’re thinking, and I’m not here to diagnose you. What you’re dealing with feels heavy, and it’s been going on for a long time. That alone deserves attention.
It sounds like you’ve been trying to understand yourself without much support around you. Doing that for years can make everything feel intense and overwhelming. You don’t have to be certain about any diagnosis to ask for help. Struggling is enough.
Right now, the most important thing isn’t figuring out whether you have BPD. It’s making sure you’re not carrying this alone.
If there is any trusted adult you could talk to a school counsellor, teacher, relative, or another safe adult it might help to start there. You don’t need to explain everything or use a label. You can simply say that you haven’t been coping well and you need support.
If that doesn’t feel possible, you can also speak to a professional confidentially. In Singapore, you can call or WhatsApp National Mindline at 1771. You can share what you shared here. The focus is on helping you feel steadier, not on diagnosing you.
You don’t have to sort your whole life out right now. Taking one small step toward support is enough for today.