I frequently self sabotage., silence my emotions and make myself feel more and more sad because I don’t wanna feel better. Because I want to justify being sad. Without sadness no one will bother about me. Right. Djsjjnzjshshshs can I disappear
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Hi @okay
Thank you for coming here to share your struggles with us. I hear you and it sounds really tough to be feeling this way.
Could you share more about why you feel the need to justify being sad? What does sadness bring for you? During those moments of sadness, are there people to support you through? I wonder if you are needing connection and support at this moment.
Every emotion serve different functions. It is helpful to find out what sadness brings for you in order to identify the primary need to meet. If you are seeking connection, there are different ways to do so. It can be through expressing your feelings, finding shared interests with people or just having common topics to talk about.
It might not be helpful to keep dwelling on sadness to keep people in your life. It could also stop you from moving forward and get yourself trapped in the cycle of negativity. This would prevent you from really understand yourself and what you need.
If possible, you may consider changing your perspective. You can try to empower yourself by focusing on your strengths, this would be reasons why people connect with you in the first place. I am sure there are people who like being with you for who you really are.
I also want to encourage you to try out these tools we have that may help you to manage these overwhelming feelings:
- Have self-compassion - https://mindline.sg/youth?wysa_tool_id=love_yourself
- Reframe your thoughts and find new perspectives - https://mindline.sg/youth?wysa_tool_id=find_perspective
- Take deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed - https://mindline.sg/youth?wysa_tool_id=breathe_deeply
I hope this helps to build the courage within you to feel comfortable with yourself and to be more empowered. Hope to hear more from you. Take care!
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