Is it just ME?

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Hi everyone,

Have you been feeling a bit lost, misunderstood, or like you’re carrying a weight that no one else seems to notice?

Sometimes, even when you’re surrounded by classmates, family, or friends, it can still feel like no one truly sees you. Maybe you’ve tried to share how you feel and were met with silence, or worse, judgment… That can hurt deeply and make you question if your feelings even matter. But I want to gently remind you: your emotions are valid, and you don’t have to carry them alone.

If you’re comfortable, I’d love to hear your thoughts:

  1. When do you feel most unseen or misunderstood?
  2. What’s one thing you wish someone (anyone) would say or do for you right now?
  3. If you could speak to someone without fear of being judged, what would you want to say?

You deserve kindness, safety, and support, no matter what you’re going through. This space is here for you.

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Hi @cottonsoul ! Thanks for bringing this matter into attention. I have a need to address this issue now than ever.

I feel extremely overwhelmed by my responsibilities at home lately. I mean it’s normal for a household with a special child and an elderly family member to have competing needs. But recently, I have been having some difficulties coping. My family situation is rather dynamic. Mood fluctuations and stress are a common.

I previously got extremely disturbed because I couldn’t perform up to my potential at school and often felt as if I was the problem. But, don’t worry, I have gotten enough validation from official sources (i.e. lecturers and course managers) that that’s not the issue. It’s just the situation at home that doesn’t seem to get resolved. It just feels like we need a thousand pair of hands. Even then, we won’t probably get all the work done.

I really need to have some me time, not really to enjoy life, but mainly to get my life sorted out. In that case, I can’t really help out at home. But the funny part is that despite the rationale, they just apparently need me every now and then. In essence, we just cannot seem to arrive at a peaceful consensus that can solve the problem. Honestly, I’m tired of giving in and losing out. Simply out of puff :face_exhaling:.

But don’t get me wrong! Outside of home, I’m chirpy, hopeful and optimistic. It’s just the situation at home… Because of it, I often get doubtful about whether I am asking too much from them.

In that case, my main request to my family would be to, no offence, just let me manage my life. It’s their indecisiveness that’s been causing much of the problem.

And Wow! Thanks for the breather🫰

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Thank you for sharing so openly! it takes a lot of courage to voice these feelings, and it sounds like you’ve been carrying so much, and it makes complete sense that you’re feeling overwhelmed and out of steam. Your desire for some space to sort things out isn’t selfish, but it’s essential. :slight_smile:
I hear how much you’re juggling right now… Could you share with us: If you could carve out even a small window of “me time” in your week, what would feel most grounding or helpful for you in this season? :slight_smile:

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I am now executing project “Me time” in full swing! Though it may seem to be rude for the other party sometimes, I’m insistent on it. I’m technically on vacation till August. But I will be starting an internship programme in the days to come. The last internship I went on was very transformative. I feel optimistic about this one too!