Hi there! recently i have been thinking about this. I used to have best friend in my 20s but as time goes by my social circle is getting smaller and if someone ask me do u have a friend u can go to for support? My answer is no, I don’t have a friend that I can pour my thoughts to or a best friend that I can confide in. Is this normal not to have friends at 35?
I do have friends whom i meet but its not the kind that I can deep talk alot of things about… sometimes I felt lonely and also envy my other friends that have support from their friends…
One of my friend told me that you have to accept anyone like or don’t like you also every relationship comes and go.. also for my therapy journey it has been up and down that i haven’t found a therapist whom i feel really supported especially post support i do appreciate therapist who takes effort to check in on me and give guidance but sadly to say the therapist that I have engage with doesn’t really do that..
Seeking for advice…
Hey @reassuredturnip9, thank you for reaching out!
Appreciate you sharing something so personal and vulnerable here! The quiet ache of not having someone to truly confide in is something many people experience in their 30s, even if it’s rarely talked about openly! So yes, it’s more common than you might think, and it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
Honestly, friendships in adulthood are genuinely harder to build and maintain…The deep friendships we form in our younger years often relied on proximity and shared time, like in school etc…things that naturally reduce as life gets busier. The longing you seem to be feeling for something more meaningful is a sign that you value real connection, and that’s worth honouring 
I also hear the loneliness and the envy when you see others with closer support networks! Those feelings make complete sense. The envy here is just a signal pointing to what you genuinely need.
On what your friend said about accepting that people come and go, there’s definitely some truth in that, but I’d like to offer that it doesn’t mean you have to stop wanting or working towards deeper connection. Acceptance and hope can coexist
I appreciate you naming your therapy journey. Feeling unsupported or not quite “met” by a therapist is a real and valid experience, and it’s okay to keep looking for someone who feels like a better fit. The therapeutic relationship matters a lot!
If you’d like to speak to someone over the phone, you can always reach out to National Mindline 1771, okay? You can call them at 1771/whatsapp them at 66691771. They are available 24/7!
Thank you so much for your kind reply. 
I teared up a little reading it because you described exactly how I’ve been feeling — the “quiet ache” really resonated with me.
I also liked what you said about acceptance and hope coexisting. I think I’ve been trying to tell myself to just accept relationships come and go, but at the same time I still hope to have a deeper connection with someone one day.
Thank you for taking the time to write such a thoughtful response and for sharing the resource too. I really appreciate it.