Is this normal

Ask a Therapist Is This Normal?
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Is this normal to feel very stress in life due to money ( all of us is) and when working don’t feel the stress , while working , I don’t feel so stress when I am outside working

I feel not able to eat , sleep well , pain everywhere ,overthinking how to earn more.money especially with another newborn coming

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Thanks for sharing. I know it must be difficult for you to share all these as it is a sensitive topic. However, I do have some advice for you.

It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed by financial stress, especially when you have a newborn on the way. Many people experience similar feelings, as financial pressures can weigh heavily on the mind and body. The symptoms you describe—difficulty eating, trouble sleeping, physical pain, and overthinking—are common signs of stress and anxiety. Your focus on work likely gives you a temporary escape, allowing you to concentrate on tasks and temporarily distance yourself from the financial worries.

However, prolonged stress can affect your well-being. It’s important to find healthy ways to manage it, like:

  1. Talk to someone: Whether it’s a loved one, a counselor, or a friend, sharing your thoughts can offer relief.
  2. Create a budget or financial plan: Sometimes, having a clear plan can reduce anxiety about money. Even small steps can make you feel more in control.
  3. Set realistic goals: Focus on small, achievable goals rather than the overwhelming big picture.
  4. Practice relaxation techniques: Deep breathing, meditation, or light exercise can help manage stress.
  5. Ask for help: If you’re struggling, it’s okay to seek assistance from family, financial advisors, or community resources.

It’s a tough situation, but you’re not alone in feeling this way. What do you think would be most helpful to ease your stress at the moment?

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Hi asakura

Thank you for the courage of coming forward with your experiences. Your feelings of stress, uncertainty and trepidation are 100% valid and I believe resonates with many of us. With a baby on the way, it’s understandable and normal to experience heightened stress and anxiety about additional finances needed. Please do not be discouraged. It’s wonderful you are expanding your family and there are ways you can manage this transition phase. I have compiled a few suggestions here for your consideration:

A)sit down with your partner and budget for your family expenses. Thereafter keep within this budget and guard against impulse purchases or wants. Prioritise needs above wants.

B)set aside a monthly amount as a form of savings. It can be small but over time it will grow. I have seen, when working with families, how reassuring it is to know there are some savings.

C)set aside some time for yourself for self-care. These could be inexpensive such as exercising, listening to music and doing yoga, but the benefits to stress management and overall wellness are tangible.

D)slowly incorporate mindfulness into your daily life as a means of addressing overthinking and hyper vigilance. Recognise thoughts are just thoughts and not necessarily true or useful. Acknowledge the thoughts, don’t fight them or get swept away by them. Let thoughts be in the background. Continue to mindfully focus to remain in the present and let your values drive your actions and responses.

Congratulations on the upcoming new arrival! I encourage you stay optimistic. I believe by staying mindful about expenses and with greater awareness of your thoughts, you are fully capable of making good choices in all areas of your life. You got this!:heart:

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Thanks for reverting

I would like to Ask for help but don’t know how to start also