Idk how am I supposed to feel about myself. There’s moments when I just sit down and think. Think about my feelings but I confuse what am I feeling. Isit because my upset or just tired.
Hey @Dumbegg,
Sorry to hear that you are upset and tired. It sounds like you are feeling sad, is that what you are feeling ?
It’s funny cause idk what am I feeling at this point. I felt like weights on my shoulder but I refuse to knowledge it. But once I’m alone I felt like crying
Hey @Dumbegg ,
That’s fine, let’s work through this together…
When I read what you wrote, there appears to be a sequence… There is a physical heaviness.You push it aside.
When you’re alone, the tears come.
That pattern suggests the feeling is present earlier it just isn’t being given space until you’re by yourself.
It sounds like your system is postponing the emotion until it feels safer to release it.
About “upset or just tired” instead, it may help to observe your own patterns over time:
If rest or sleep reduces the heaviness, it may lean more toward physical fatigue.
If the weight stays even after rest, or increases after certain thoughts or interactions, it may be emotional strain.
You don’t need a precise word yet. Emotional clarity develops gradually. For now, the step isn’t “figure it out.” The step is simply noticing:
“There is heaviness right now.”
The line “I refuse to acknowledge it” is important. Avoiding it may help you function in the moment. But the cost seems to be that it returns more strongly when you’re alone.
You might experiment with very brief acknowledgement during the day, not analysing, not solving, just pausing for a few seconds and allowing the sensation to exist without pushing it away. Sometimes that reduces the build-up later.
If this heaviness becomes frequent, affects sleep, appetite, or concentration, or starts to feel overwhelming, that would be a good point to involve a trusted person or a counsellor. Not because something is “wrong,” but because sustained emotional load is hard to carry alone.
For now, not knowing what you feel is common when you’re under strain. It’s a signal to slow down.
I felt like mentally unstable. I did sleep however if Im not busy I spend a lot of the time just being on the floor laying down and just keep quiet. I spend most of the time sleeping but when I wake up I still feel the tiredness
Hey @Dumbegg,
I’m not going to dismiss this as just “tired.”
Sleeping more, lying down most of the time, feeling drained even after rest, that can be signs of low mood or burnout. Sometimes it’s stress. Sometimes it’s depression. Sometimes it’s a physical issue. The key is duration and impact.
I want to check gently:
- Has this been going on for more than two weeks?
- Are you losing interest in things you usually care about?
- Any changes in appetite or weight?
- Are your thoughts becoming harsher about yourself?
- Any thoughts about not wanting to be here or wanting everything to stop?
Whenever you feel ready, nothing to alarm, those are markers that tell us whether this is mild exhaustion or beyond mild exhaustion.
Lying on the floor and going quiet can mean your nervous system is shutting down to cope. It’s not dramatic. It’s a conservation response. But if it becomes your main state, that’s when we involve more support.
Given what you’ve described, hope that you can reach out for assistance across two parallel tracks:
- Medical check - If fatigue persists despite sleep, see a GP. Rule out iron deficiency, thyroid issues, sleep disruption, etc. It’s basic but important.
- Mental health check-in - If this heaviness and withdrawal continue, or if motivation drops further, speak to a counsellor or psychologist. Earlier support is easier than waiting until it worsens.
If at any point your thoughts shift toward harming yourself or not wanting to live, that becomes urgent. In Singapore, you can call:
- SOS: 1767
- National Mindline: 1771
- Or use the Mindline “Get Help Now” service online.
Right now, I’m not hearing active self-harm thoughts. I am hearing significant depletion. This is not something to ignore. But it’s also not something to panic about yet. Let’s take it seriously and monitor closely.
I have been feeling this way often. I felt like the world betraying my feelings. One moment I’m happy and another moment I’m just drained and tired. I do still eat however I do sometimes just don’t have the appetite to do so. Ofc I do felt mad at myself sometimes because like I mention I mad at myself for letting myself to feel this way