Hi @1847,
I hear you, and I want to acknowledge the immense weight you’re carrying. It sounds like these feelings have been with you for a while, and they’ve made everything feel heavy. I’m really glad you shared this here, because it takes courage to be open about what you’re going through.
It sounds like you’ve been in a constant state of questioning—about your purpose, your place in life, and what the future holds for you. The fact that you’re 16 and dealing with these questions makes sense. It’s not uncommon for young people at your age to question everything around them as you try to understand who you are and what you want from life. But when those feelings become overwhelming, it can feel like you’re in a never-ending loop of confusion and frustration.
When you say, “Everything and anything I do now will result in nothing,” I can understand how that would make everything feel pointless. You’ve been trying, but the rewards and results just don’t seem to match the effort. That must be incredibly exhausting, especially when you’re just trying to get through each day. It feels like there’s a disconnect between what you’re doing and what you’re getting back in return, doesn’t it?
I hear the frustration in your words when you say that others tell you to “change your mindset,” and I want to validate that. Changing your mindset isn’t something that can be done on command, and it certainly can’t fix everything in one go. That takes time, effort, and sometimes guidance to understand why you’re feeling stuck in this cycle. You’re not alone in this—many people feel lost at your age, and you have the strength to work through this, step by step, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
I also hear the doubt in your question about whether it’s “normal” to be having existential crises at 16. It is normal to question things at this stage in life. However, when those thoughts become overwhelming, they can cloud your ability to see a way forward. You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to ask for help in understanding what’s going on inside your head.
I want you to know that you are not alone in these feelings, and it’s okay to have doubts, to be unsure, and to feel frustrated with where you are. You don’t need to have it all figured out right now. What you’re experiencing is part of the journey, but it doesn’t mean you have to carry it on your own.
Please, take small steps for now. It could be something as simple as writing down your thoughts every day or finding one person who you can talk to about this. You don’t need to face this by yourself. You deserve support, and I encourage you to reach out to a counsellor or someone you trust who can guide you through these feelings.
You are not “broken” or “stuck”. You are in a place of growth, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. You can take things one day at a time, and I believe you have the strength to get through this.
Take care of yourself, and please know that it’s okay to feel lost at times.