Idk what my life is for

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possible TW!

:bangbang: im not going to :skull: myself, i just keep thinking about it :bangbang:

idk what to do in life. idk what i want to do when i grow up. what am i going to work as? what should i study? idk why this makes me lowkey wanna :skull: myself. i think i feel like i don’t have a purpose.

previously whenever i thought about :skull: myself my first thought would b i can’t cuz my parents dk how to take care of my pet but my pet recently died n so now i don’t have that excuse for myself to not :skull: myself

i don’t think like this all the time just sometimes i get into these phases

could this b mild anxiety/ depression?

again, i am not going to actually :skull: myself just thinking abt it :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: tq

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Hi @peace_for_now

Thank you for reaching out and willingness to talk about your feelings. It takes a lot of courage to share this.

Firstly, please know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people, especially during their younger years, struggle with finding purpose, uncertainty about the future, and feelings of anxiety or depression.

It’s completely normal to have thoughts about feeling lost or unsure about the future. However, having recurring thoughts about self-harm, even if you don’t intend to act on them, is a sign that you might need some extra support.

I would encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult, such as a parent, teacher, or school counsellor, about how you’re feeling. They can offer you guidance, support, and help you develop coping strategies to manage your emotions.

Additionally, there are many resources available to help you navigate these feelings:

  1. Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) - 1800-283 7019
  2. IMH CHAT: (https://www.imh.com.sg/CHAT/Get-Help/webCHAT/Pages/default.aspx)
  3. SOS - 1767
  4. Care Corner Counselling Centre - 1800-353 5800

Please know you don’t have to face this alone. There are people who care about you and want to help.

Keep in mind that it’s okay to not have all the answers right now. You don’t have to have your entire life planned out. Take things one step at a time, and focus on finding small joys and accomplishments each day.

Please take care of yourself and don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it. :heart:

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Which stage of life r u at rn? Also buy a new pet lmao

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Hi OP,

I’m also struggling with that anxiety of what will come in my future. I’ve graduated but I’m still working in a job that does not challenge me. I feel stuck and sometimes powerless. You are valid for feeling anxious. I feel that no one really knows what they’re doing in their life haha. But what my friend told me before is to “take it one day at a time.” It’s easier said than done, but I find that it’s no use worrying about things to come now instead of later on; I’m just putting more unnecessary stress to myself :sweat_smile:. Be patient with yourself, and know that you’re doing the best you can in this world of chaos :slight_smile:

You say that you don’t think about it all the time but gets into those phases. I’ve also thought that way, and while I’ve gotten many useful tools to self-regulate, the phases did not go away. It was only after getting medicated for depression that regulating my mental health became so much easier. This is from my own experience, however. If you have the resources to get diagnosed by a psychiatrist, perhaps you can try getting professionally checked.

I hope life gets better for you, OP <3