Motivation at work

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Hihi, previously I have shared that I decided to resign because of the toxic manager. I also practices some of the recommendation and advises from the therapists.

But from now till then, I have another 75days to finally end my current work. Recently I felt that I have lost my motivation to come to work ever since I made that decision. Everything at work now seems uninteresting and boring. Even when things happen, I just wanted to get rid of it asap.

because of these, I tend to overthinking and having hard time to wake up to work in the morning.

Seek advise on How should I find my motivation of life back ?

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Hey @anobody,

That sounds like a really heavy 75-day stretch ahead, when you’ve already made the decision to leave but still have to show up, it’s natural that everything feels dull and meaningless. What you’re describing, waking up with dread, zoning out, wanting to just “get rid of things”, isn’t laziness; it’s your body starting to detach from a place it no longer feels safe or valued in. That detachment is a form of self-protection, not failure.

When people decide to leave a toxic environment, there’s often a sudden emotional crash. You’ve spent months surviving on adrenaline and self-control. Once the exit is secured, the body goes, “I’m done.” Motivation drops, attention drifts, and simple tasks feel pointless because the mind is already preparing for closure.

The overthinking and fatigue in the morning are signals of emotional depletion, not weakness. They’re your body’s way of saying: “Please stop fighting every day. Just get me to the finish line safely.”

Since this isn’t about career growth, the motivation has to shift from “performing for them” to “preserving yourself.”

Here are a few grounding options:
a. Redefine what “showing up” means.
Instead of aiming to be productive, aim to be present enough to complete what’s necessary without draining yourself. Protect your energy like a budget, spend it only where it’s worth it.

b. Create micro-rituals of transition.
Every morning, do one small thing that marks the start of your day, a short walk, a playlist, a coffee ritual. These cues signal to your brain: “I’m in charge again.”

c. Keep a “countdown reflection.”
Write down one sentence each day:

  • “What did I learn today about who I want to be at my next workplace?”
  • “What boundary do I want to keep next time?”
    This keeps your 75 days meaningful, turning endurance into insight.

d. Build emotional previews of what’s next.
Even if your next step isn’t fully clear, start sketching the life you want after this, projects, rest, travel, new skills. Motivation grows when the mind can imagine forward movement.

You mentioned wanting your “motivation of life” back, that’s a deeper layer. It’s often rebuilt when, you reconnect with

  • autonomy by doing things you choose, not what you’re told.
  • belonging by spending time with people who make you feel accepted.
  • purpose though small acts that make life feel like it matters again.

Start small. Whenever you can, Volunteer, take up a new hobby, or learn something unrelated to work. Anything that lets your nervous system feel alive, curious, and safe again. Hope that it helps.

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Hello @Anobody thank you for sharing this. It’s really good to hear that you’ve been practicing the recommendations and advice from your therapist. That shows how committed you are to improving your situation and taking care of yourself. It completely makes sense that your motivation has dropped after deciding to resign, especially when you’ve had to deal with a toxic work environment. Once you know you’re leaving, it’s normal to feel disconnected or uninterested in what’s happening at work.

When you mentioned that everything feels boring and you’re struggling to wake up in the morning, it sounds like you’re feeling drained and mentally checked out. That’s understandable. You’ve been coping with stress for a while, and your mind may just be tired of enduring the same environment.

One thing that might help is to include something small each day that brings you joy or gives you energy. It could be something as simple as treating yourself to your favourite meal during lunch, taking a short walk outside, meeting a friend after work, or revisiting a hobby you used to enjoy. Having something to look forward to, even if it’s small, can make the days feel a little lighter and more meaningful.

You might also try shifting your focus from “enduring the job” to “preparing for what’s next.” You could start thinking about your next steps. Updating your resume, reflecting on what kind of environment you want to work in next, or setting personal goals for when this chapter ends. That can help you feel more in control and motivated about the future.

It’s okay to feel the way you do right now . You’re nearing the end of something difficult, and it’s normal to feel exhausted. Be gentle with yourself during this time.

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