Recently my dad has been searching for a new job and I’ve been happy for him . He has been rlly unhappy in his current job . He got an offer in Bangkok and he is rlly happy about it . Pay is lesser but it is making him happy . I feel so selfish. I don’t want him to go . I’ve always been a daddy girls and I rlly don’t want him to go . He is my role model and I barely survive when he goes on business trips before. My mum doesn’t seem to care . I’ve been crying for 4 hours . I don’t know what to do . I’m gonna miss him so so so much
hey @user7686, you’re NOT selfish at all. you just love & admire your dad vv deeply, and tbh having that kind of bond is truly special. the fact that you noticed how unhappy he was in his old job and now feel genuinely glad that he’s found sth that makes him happy shows how much you care for him. it’s okay to miss him and to cry – it just means he means a lot to you.
i study overseas, so i completely get what it’s like to be away from family and to feel like you can’t survive without them – i honestly cried sm leading up to their departure and in the first few weeks. but over time, it really does get easier. you still miss them, but you find little ways to stay close. eg. regular video calls, sharing updates, sending random photos – they make such a big difference.
give yourself space to feel sad right now, but also trust that you’ll both find a new rhythm. your dad sounds like sb who loves you a lot, and that connection isn’t going to fade just because of physical distance.
take care of yourself, okie? i’m rooting for you 
Hello @user7686 thank you for sharing this. It’s really wonderful that your dad has finally received a job offer after being unhappy in his current one. It sounds like something that could bring him a lot of joy and peace. And I want to say that you are absolutely not selfish for not wanting him to go. It’s clear that you love him very deeply and have such a strong bond, so it makes complete sense that the thought of being apart feels so painful right now.
Even though he may be away physically, you can still keep that connection alive through phone calls and video chats. It might help you feel a little closer to him, even from afar. And although your mom might seem like she doesn’t care, sometimes people just show their feelings differently, even if they’re hurting inside too.
If you feel ready, you could share with your dad how you’re feeling about all this. He’ll likely appreciate your honesty and understand how much he means to you. Maybe you can also plan for him to visit home often, or even for you and your mom to visit him in Bangkok. It won’t be the same, but knowing you’ll see him again can make the distance a little more bearable.
hello, I understand that you miss him and it is not selfish to feel that way, and it is totally normal. I can see that you are really happy for him with his new job offer. perhaps you can call him/video call him daily? 