I have a bit of work in school to do but i can never find motivation to do anything i end up sitting at my desk procrastinating so badly its awful
Then also ive been feeling lonely in the sense of a relationship since a lot of my mates are in one and then ive just helped 2 of them start one at a party so thats made me feel like a new low
Also my parents are always mad at me i just cant seem to get a break from some kind of argument i always do somthing wrong and its mostly because of school and my motivation and i dont know how to fix this. And i know its unhealthy and im stuggling with motivation atm.
hello, thank you sharing. I understand that perhaps we all need a little break to recharge, perhaps you can set aside some time to engage in something you enjoy and come back more refreshed from the task at hand. and perhaps you can share with your parents that you are feeling quite overwhelmed atm and you will benefit from a break. on the part of relationships, perhaps there are other relationships that can be formed, in the form of friendships (making new friends from new projects etc) and that can be fulfilling too! rooting for you op
Sounds like you don’t have a lot of support in your life, and I’m sorry you’re having a hard time right now.
I get not feeling motivated to finish my schoolwork, and the only main motivator I use is that it has a deadline. Say that the assignment needs to be completed by next week, then I would just set aside 3-4 days before the deadline to do it. I could also not do the work, but the consequences would be getting marked down or even worse, getting my parents involved.
You could also possibly find a third space to do your work. Then, at least you’ll have your own space to do it at your own pace. I would go to my university libraries or even spaces outside the schools to do my work. Sometimes, a change in the scenery helps to freshen up the brain.
Almost everyone procrastinates, have u ruled out possibility of Adhd? From.what some frens told me, it doesn mean hyper but diffic in completing 1 task, short atten span. Maybe consult a pro to check?
Thank you for sharing. I hear the sense of loneliness and perhaps a sense of frustration that you are experiencing right now. It is very difficult when you see others progressing, and you seem to be the only one left behind, alone. It is also very challenging to handle parents who don’t seem to understand you and always find fault with you. You are carrying a lot of emotional burden, and it is no surprise that you feel a lack of motivation, because your brain is simply handling a lot of things at once. Could I gently suggest that you don’t be so harsh on yourself at this current moment? You don’t need to ‘fix’ your motivation right now. You need some good mental rest, so you can let your brain recharge.
Thanks for sharing your struggles. It sounds like you find it hard to find motivation in your school work, and that you’re feeling loneliness from seeing your friends around you being in a relationship. Moreover, at home, the arguments with your parents is something that’s adding on to your stresses. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of emotional burden from all of these, and it can be challenging to handle.
Maybe you could find some time to be with yourself. Maybe on a weekend, show yourself some kindness by treating yourself to a nice meal or buying something you always wanted to make yourself happy. These small acts of kindness to ourselves can help us recharge and remind ourselves that we’re important too.
For the loneliness you’re feeling due to relationships, I think it’s normal to want to have someone that we can share life with. But at the same time, not being in one can also give us more time to do the things we want and focus on goals we may have for ourselves. There are upsides too of not being in one as well.
Lastly, for your parents, it can be stressful if they’re not understanding of your feelings. Maybe you could try opening up and telling them how you’re feeling at the moment? It could allow them to better understand your feelings and point of view.
