I am sec 1 this year and i suspect my father has some anger issues that’s getting worse. I’m worried that i may see it getting worse or i have any mental issues.
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Hi @Sakitenma, thanks for writing in to us.
It sounds like you’re really stressed out with your dad’s anger issues That must be really tough for you, especially if you don’t feel safe with a person who is supposed to provide care and support to you.
If you’re open to receiving professional assistance, you may wish to approach the FAM@FSC service, which provides free counselling for individuals facing challenges in their relationships. I’ve attached the link (Family Counselling) for your reference.
You can also approach your nearest Family Service Centre (MSF | Directories) for guidance on how to navigate the complex situation at home.
Keep well, and do write in to us again if you need further assistance. We are here for you! 
Best regards,
HanSolo2000
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Hi @Sakitenma,
It takes a lot of courage to share your concerns, especially when it involves someone close to you. It sounds like you’re noticing some difficult changes in your father’s behaviour. Just making sure If we can be of immediate help;
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Keeping Safe: When he’s angry, how are you keeping your safety?
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Getting Support: Is there another close member that you trust—a family member, teacher, or school counsellor—you could talk to in person about what’s happening?
Sharing your worries with someone who can listen and help can make a big difference.
Just letting you know that you’re already doing a great job by recognising that something feels off and reaching out for support. Would you like to talk more about it when you are ready; what’s been happening or how you’ve been feeling? We are here to listen.
Hi there! I hear that your dad has some anger issues, and you have a lot of worries about not just him, but how it’s affecting you as well.
You’re not alone, and what you’re experiencing is not your fault. Everyone gets angry once in a while, but a healthy person learns how to regulate their emotions as they grow older and more experienced. When someone isn’t able to do that, it can lead to hurtful behaviours. It isn’t fair for the people around them — they can get hurt and worry a lot, like you.
You deserve a space and home that you feel safe in. Is there any person you feel safe with at home or near home?
hi @Sakitenma,
It sounds like you are going through a challenging time, and it is completely understandable to feel worried about both your father’s anger issues and how they might affect you.
Like what @FuYuan_Affections mentioned, important thing is for you to be safe (and feel safe) during your father’s anger episodes. Having someone to talk to is really important! You should consider speaking to your mother about how this is affecting your mental health (and hopefully she can let your father know, so at least he is aware).
You don’t have to go through all of this alone, and just like what @lilac said, a home should be a place where you feel safe.
Thank you for sharing something so personal. It’s completely valid to feel worried when someone close to you, like your dad, seems to be struggling with anger, especially if it’s starting to affect how safe or comfortable you feel at home. It’s not your fault, and you’re not responsible for his emotions or actions.
It’s also really thoughtful of you to be aware of your own feelings and mental health. Just noticing that something feels off and wanting to understand it better is a strong and mature step. If you ever feel overwhelmed, talking to a trusted adult like a teacher, school counselor, or another family member, can help you feel less alone and get the support you deserve.
You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’re human, and your wellbeing matters. If it comes to a point that you wish to seek professional help, you may approach a Family Service Centre near you (also mentioned in the previous replies).
Meanwhile, if you have any queries or anything you would like to share, feel free to write in to us. Remember, you are not alone in this:)
hey, I get how it feels because it’s happening to me too, one advice, speak up for you, not for them, for you, I wish I had courage to speak up, but I’m sec2 now and it’s getting worse, sending love and hugs, keep going, your life is important!
~K