Self Isolation

Ask a Therapist Is This Normal?
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Is it normal for me to always feel misunderstood and just isolate myself from others?

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Hey Acha,

First off, I want you to know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people (myself included) go through periods where they feel misunderstood or out of sync with the world around them. It’s completely normal to feel like you don’t quite fit in sometimes or that others don’t really “get” you.

Life comes with a lot of changes—emotionally, socially, and even in how you think about yourself and your place in the world. This can make it hard to connect with others, and when that happens, isolating yourself can feel like the easiest or safest option. But even though it’s understandable, withdrawing from others too much can make those feelings of loneliness or misunderstanding even stronger.

If you’re comfortable, try talking to someone you trust about how you’re feeling. This could be a friend, a family member, a counselor, or someone who makes you feel heard. I’m here to listen too if you feel more comfortable sharing via this platform. :slight_smile: I’ve also found some of the resources on the mindline.sg website helpful and you can consider checking it out. https://www.mindline.sg/youth/home

Sometimes, opening up even a little bit can lead to more understanding than you expected. And remember, it’s okay to take things at your own pace.

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I unds where u coming from but isolation will just drive u deeper into memtal health issues. Wat i did was to reach out to similar ppl online n then hang out w them. For e.g., chatted w ppl w mental health issues n hanged out w them. As long as they r trying to get better together n not trying to pull u down w them too. Feel free to chat

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Dear @acha
You are not the only one that has this kind of feeling. It is good that you are aware that the root cause of the problem is being misunderstood. Please communicate with the person of your feelings/point of views so that they understand you better. You might not do it immediately but after the situation cool down. You will be surprise with the outcome.

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Hi @Acha,

It’s absolutely normal to feel misunderstood at times, especially when we long for deeper connections and feel like others might not see us fully. Sometimes, this can lead to a sense of loneliness that makes isolation seem like the safest choice. When misunderstandings happen repeatedly, it’s natural to want to pull away and protect yourself.

If you’re comfortable, think about what it is you’d like people to understand about you. Is there a way to bring small parts of that into your interactions with others? It might also be helpful to look at any moments where you felt even a little bit understood, no matter how small—these moments can sometimes help us see that connection is possible, even if it’s not always perfect.

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hey @acha! i hear you. i can’t tell you if it’s normal or not but i just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. i have experienced such feelings myself as well, and i have friends who go through the same too. i hope you don’t blame yourself for that.

i wish i could give you my personal experiences on what helps for me, but i’m still in the middle of figuring this out too, so yeah i just want you to know that i understand you. please don’t force yourself to do what’s not comfortable for you, take time for yourself, and you don’t have to rush anything :heart: