Hi ..im a 42 years old single mum of two teenage boys.currently im in ongoing divorce period.Lately I’ve noticed that im not the old usual self that I used to be.im not sure if what I’ve been having now(anxiety) is the term of it.i really need help on this.i cant cope this feeling anymore.ive been under pressure,stress and overthinking.i do need help.
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Hey @user6423 I can sense the immense stress and pressure you feel right now, having to worry about the divorce procedures and taking care of your two kids. It must be a really difficult time for you now, and I affirm you for taking the courage to reach out for help.
The Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) provides a variety of resources available to cope with single parenting. If you’re open to it, you can check out this website: Single Parenting | Family Assist
There are resources available on there that you can read up on, including some self-care tips like being kind to yourself, engaging in activities that you enjoy and not being afraid to seek social support from friends and family.
There is also the option of divorce counselling available on the website, where you get to talk to professionals to support you during and after divorce. They are equipped with the necessary knowledge and resources to help you get through this tough time.
If face-to-face counselling seems overwhelming, MSF also provides online counselling as an alternative. You can register on this website for a free-of-charge counselling session, and there is the option available to remain anonymous here: Online Counselling on Family Assist (OCFA) | Family Assist
If you ever feel overwhelmed and need someone to talk to, you can always call up the National Mindline hotline at 1771. The hotline operates 24/7 and there are counsellors on the other side willing to lend you their listening ear.
I understand that it’s an extremely tough time for you right now, so please give yourself sufficient time to process your thoughts and emotions. You don’t need to rush things, try to take one small step at a time. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support from loved ones whenever you feel distressed, there are people that care for you and are willing to listen to you. You matter to them. Sending you love and hope 
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Hey @user6423, it sounds like this divorce and everything that comes with it has really taken a toll on you. You’re used to being a certain version of yourself, and now with all the pressure, stress, and constant thoughts running through your mind, it’s like you don’t quite recognise who you are anymore. That can be really unsettling and exhausting.
What you’re describing, feeling on edge, unable to switch off, and struggling to cope can happen when we go through prolonged emotional strain. It doesn’t mean you’re weak but means you’ve been carrying more than anyone should have to on their own.
If you can, please reach out for professional support whether that’s a counsellor, therapist, or someone you trust so that you don’t have to hold all this inside. At the same time, even small daily acts like grounding exercises, short walks, or talking to a trusted friend can help take the edge off the anxiety.
You’ve already taken a strong step by speaking up about how you’re feeling 
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Dear @user6423
Thank you for writing in. You reaching out for support here is a laudable first step to address what you are experiencing. Please know that the emotions you are experiencing are fully understandable and valid. It is indeed a stressful period; I believe that are multiple areas to sort out and that is hard.
Please remember to put aside small pockets of protected time for yourself doing activities you enjoy even as you navigate the uncertainty before you. Reach out for friends and family who have a track record of giving you unconditional support.
I also encourage you to consider resources recommended by @crispycreme and @CharmingAnt. I especially recommend seeking help from a therapist for yourself and children. Do consider both individual and sessions with your kids. The session would provide a non judgmental safe space for the three of you to air your emotions, fears, thoughts and plans for the future.
As you go through this challenging period, please know you are not alone. Reach out for help whenever needed.