Stress with marriage life

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I am married but i am always so stress with the marriage. I cant share things with my parents because at the back of my mind i am scared i will upset him because he stay together with me and my parents. I hate this life. I wished god just take me away.

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Dear @user1188 ,

Thank you for reaching out to us. I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. :people_hugging: It sounds incredibly tough to be in a situation where you feel stressed in your marriage and unable to share your feelings with your parents out of fear of upsetting your partner. It’s important to have someone to talk to and feel supported. :orange_heart:

It’s common for people to face challenges in marriage. It’s a union of two individuals with different values, communication styles, and love languages. Marriage requires a wide range of skills, and there are many strategies that can be helpful to navigate relationships.

Here are a few things you might consider:

  1. Seek Support: It could be helpful to talk to a therapist or counsellor who can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings and explore ways to improve your situation.

  2. Communication: Finding ways to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about how you’re feeling can be challenging but important. It might be helpful to approach the conversation calmly and choose a time when you both can talk without distractions.

  3. Self-Care: Taking care of yourself is crucial. Engaging in activities that bring you peace and joy, like hobbies or exercise, can help reduce stress.

  4. Support Network: Consider reaching out to friends or other trusted individuals who can offer support and perspective. You’re also welcome to share more with us.

You deserve to feel happy and supported in your marriage. It’s okay to seek help and take steps towards a healthier and happier life. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or in crisis, please consider reaching out to SOS - 1767: They also provides 24 hour CareText, a text-based service that provides emotional support for those in distress (WhatsApp 9151 1767).

Your safety and wellbeing is a priority. I hope the above has been helpful and if you’d like more resources or if there is anything else you’d like to share with us, please do. We’re here to listen to you, your feelings are valid and you matter! :grinning:

Take care,
Cool Breeze =)