Ive feel bein bullied by loved ones after my mom passed away… and im left alone. I lost 1 by 1 of my close ones. After my mom pass away i was being control,being used being ashame from my late mom families. My ex bf come and live with me i was the one who bring him in to stay with me because i want to give my ex bf from waiting his mom to get a new house and his own room
hey, i can be your friend if u r alone. Go hiking while chatting if u r open to it
Hi @user1693
Thank you for writing in. I’m sad to hear of your recent loss. Losing loved ones, especially a parent, is understandably difficult. Being bullied, controlled, and shamed by family members can be particularly painful.
Emotional Abuse
It’s essential to recognise that emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Being controlled, used, and shamed can erode your self-esteem and confidence.
Support System
Losing close ones can leave you feeling isolated and alone. It’s crucial to find a support system that can provide emotional comfort and guidance.
Self-Care
Prioritise self-care and engage in activities that bring you comfort and joy. This can include exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time in nature.
Professional Help
Consider seeking professional help from a therapist. They can provide a safe and non-judgmental space to process your emotions and develop coping strategies.
Setting Boundaries
Establish clear boundaries with family members who are bullying or controlling you. Prioritise your own needs and well-being.
You 100% deserve to be treated with love, respect, and kindness. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.
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Are u really sure its my first time someones offer me
can chat first n see how lor
Hi @user1693, thank you for sharing your story.
I’m genuinely sorry to hear about the immense pain and loss you’re experiencing. Losing your mom must have been incredibly difficult, and it’s heartbreaking that your loved ones are not offering the support and compassion you need right now. It’s unfair and painful to feel used and ashamed, especially by those who should be caring for you the most.
It’s commendable that you tried to help your ex-boyfriend during a difficult time for him, even though it may not have turned out as you hoped. Your willingness to support others, even when you’re going through your own struggles, speaks volumes about your character. It’s important to recognize and honour that strength within yourself, even if others around you fail to do so.
You deserve to be surrounded by people who appreciate and uplift you, especially during such a challenging period. Please remember that you are not alone and that there are people and resources available to support you. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, support groups, or professional counselling if you need someone to talk to. Your feelings are valid, and your well-being matters.
Here are some mental health resources in the community which you may wish to consider.
IMH CHAT: https://www.imh.com.sg/CHAT/Get-Help/Pages/default.aspx
Youth Integrated Team: SupportGoWhere
CREST - Youth: SupportGoWhere
mindline.sg Service Wayfinder: mindline.sg | Free Mental Health Resources & Mindfulness Tools in Singapore
SOS 24-hour Hotline: 1-767
Singapore Association for Mental Health Hotline: 1800-283-7019 (9am – 6pm on weekdays, except public holidays)
Institute of Mental Health Hotline: 6389-2222 (24 hours)
im glad im here. Thank you all
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@user1693 Thanks so much for sharing this—it really sounds like you’ve been through so much, and I can only imagine how difficult and heavy it must feel to carry all of that. It takes a lot of courage to open up about such deeply personal struggles, and I really admire your strength for doing so.
Even while going through your own pain, you’ve shown such a big heart by letting your ex live with you, offering him a place when he needed it. That really shows how kind and selfless you are, even when you’ve been facing so much yourself. It takes an incredible amount of resilience and compassion to think of others when you’re feeling hurt or alone.
Do you currently have anyone supporting you—any other closer friend or even a community group you feel safe with? If you’re still in school, maybe reaching out to the school counsellor could be an option for you too, or you can use the service wayfinder tool as what @HanSolo2000 had shared with you earlier to find an affordable support in the community and close to your home/school/workplace.
Having someone to talk to can make a big difference, especially when everything feels overwhelming. You deserve to have support and care for all the strength you’ve been showing. Jiayou jiayou!