Hi, I dont know if this is really normal, but over the past 6ish months, I feel like I have been forgetting things more easily, and its not like there’s just a brain fog, like my find just feels empty and I cant remember anything, like not any good things or any bad things at all, just yesterday, I was overthinking something but just a few hours after I can’t remember anything, not events that happened recently or event that happened in the past, theres like just gaps everywhere in my memory, and I just don’t remember things or thoughts. I feel like I’m overreacting, but I was someone that used to overthink. severely. I used to have at least 2 different thoughts in my head, and now my head is just clear, empty.
And with that I also just feel, nothing, like its not a feeling of numbness, but I don’t feel 'anything. Its kind of like I’m ?floating? but I’m not. Like in the past I used to feel like I’m sad or numb constantly, but I’ll still feel something. Or when like deadlines came I’d feel the stress and panic to rush my work. But now I don’t feel any of it. Just blank. Sometimes I would feel myself smile, or sometimes I’d feel tears fall, but I don’t feel the emotions behind them. Its like, I’m lost, and honestly, I feel like I’m going to spiral down some hole again. I just don’t know what.
I really want to remember, I want to remember the memories, I want to remember the sadness, the happiness behind them, and I want to remember my passion. I wish I could remember, so I can do better, better myself for others, better myself for my work, because I know I’m already failing myself, and I’m starting to fail everyone around me too.
Thank you for sharing how you’ve been feeling—it takes a lot of courage to open up about something that feels so unsettling. Clearly, you are shaken by what’s happening, especially when it feels like you’re losing pieces of your memory and connection to your emotions. That fear is valid, and I want to let you know that we are here for you.
It sounds like you’re deeply concerned about not remembering anything at all, and that thought in itself can be overwhelming. It’s natural to worry about losing parts of your past, your emotions, or even your sense of self when it feels like there are gaps in your memory. Let’s sit with that fear for a moment—not to fix it right away, but just to acknowledge how heavy it feels to carry that uncertainty.
The feelings that you have—many people experience times when their thoughts feel scattered, their emotions feel distant, or their memories feel fragmented. It doesn’t mean that everything is slipping away—it might just mean that your mind is trying to cope with something it hasn’t fully processed yet. Do you remember when you first noticed these changes? If not, that’s okay too. Sometimes simply being aware of how you feel right now is enough to start making sense of things over time.
I also hear that you deeply want to reconnect—to your memories, your emotions, and your passion. That desire is so important because it shows that even in this tough time, you care about finding your way back to yourself. Let’s approach this step by step. You don’t have to remember everything all at once or feel everything right now. What’s one small thing you could do today to reconnect with something meaningful to you? Maybe it’s a song, a picture, or even just writing down one thing you wish you could feel or remember.
It’s okay to be scared, but I want to remind you that this feeling doesn’t define you; it doesn’t mean that you are failing or starting to fail everyone around you. The fact that you’re here, sharing your fears and hoping to move forward, shows incredible strength that you are already doing better by seeking help. You’re not alone, and you don’t have to navigate this all at once. Let’s take it slow, and together we can explore ways to help you feel more grounded and connected again.
It does seem you are grasping at straws and if I am allowed to ask this weird question: may I ask what do you want to get from this when you do remember these memories?
I do see you want a variety of emotions remembered, as though making your choices already. Which part do you want to remember of these past? Just the emotions? Or the faces or words or what else is important to remember about them?
No one is over reacting when one loses something important. I would scream myself back to focus too!
About spiralling holes, failing yourself or failing others, all these thoughts have to queue first because something important is lost!
May I suggest, Let us pack our resources and see the consequence or close this loop first.
Let me know how we may support you in this?
Have you spoke to people related to these important memories?
Have you gave yourself 30 solid minutes to speak to yourself to try recollect what was important and where to store in an easy place to get them where we want in the future? (Store in wishing stars jar, a song, in close friends…etc?)
I want to feel again, honestly, anything. Even if its sadness or despair. Remembering things and experiencing things just don’t seem to cut it out for me anymore. Like when I laugh with my friends, its genuine in some way, but I will think to myself - why I don’t feel the happiness associated with it. I’ve been sitting on these thoughts for a while, and I really don’t seem to know why. I might confide in someone vaguely about this, but honestly, for the near future, I just want to have a good cry, breakdown if I can, just ugly cry to myself and feel the sadness for a while. All I hope is that this is just like a short feeling phase and not something that stays long term.
Thank you for taking your time to reply to me<3
Thank you for taking time to reply<3
I’m trying my best to reconnect with things around me, although it hasn’t been working so far, I’m hoping I at least start to remember how I used to feel again. Maybe get a good cry.
I’ve been doing small crafts to try and reignite some feeling of happiness, and I’m hoping for the best. Thank you!
I took time to read your reply and I am wondering if you took time to re-read both your replies?
The first impression I got after reading was that you are in a process of grief. Would this be the case?
If you are open, I hope to sit through with you in person to support you through this disconnection you are facing as I do recommend that you confide or talk through this in person.
While solutions may be offered through text, but this topic is about a very strong disconnection from feelings, which texting reinforces the emotional disconnection.
If you are not confortable at this moment to work with someone else, I wiuld suggest take 5 mins of your time to have some of those breathing exercises that free apps recommend.
Cheers and wishing you a smooth transition to the week.
