Worried because husband has decided to quit his job without looking for one first.
Dear @user7025
Thank you for writing in and sharing about your husbandās decision to quit his job although he has not secured another job yet. It is understandable to feel worried and unsettled. I believe you are foreseeing without the security of his earnings, there will be negative impact on the family, such as on family finances and stability.
I encourage you to first seek to understand your husbandās actions. If possible, spend some quiet time with him to gently find out what happened that led to his resignation and his plans moving forward. Allow him the space he needs to open up, suspending judgement. I recommend that you can also share your worries and fears using āIā statements. However, as this is a difficult conversation, time it only when you are sufficiently grounded and calm.
During this period of transition, please also continue to care for yourself. If you feel comfortable, do consider reaching out to a trusted elder who can provide support to both of you. Keep reaching out here for support whenever needed, too.
Do take small steady steps to deepen your connection and understanding with your husband. I sincerely believe you can get through this difficult period with mutual support and understanding.
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Hi @user7025,
Thank you for sharing about your husbandās decision to leave his job without securing another one. Itās completely natural to feel unsettled and concerned. The uncertainty around financial stability and the impact on your family can understandably weigh heavily. In this moment, it may help to gently seek understanding by spending quiet time with him, asking about what led to his resignation and what his plans might be. As @CaringBee had mentioned, you may wish to try listening with openness and suspending judgment, while also expressing your own feelings using āIā statements. Timing this conversation when you feel calm and grounded can make it more constructive and compassionate.
As you navigate this transition, remember to care for your own emotional well-being too. If it feels right, consider reaching out to a trusted family member or a close friend who can offer support to both of you. Continue leaning on supportive spaces like this one whenever you need. Small and steady efforts to reconnect and understand each other can go a long way. With mutual empathy and patience, I believe you can weather this challenging time together.
If you are looking for professional support during this time, you may utilise the resources avaialble in mindlineās First Stop for Mental Health. ( mindline.sg | First Stop for Mental Health Support in Singapore )