Hi @Lee1,
It sounds like you’re going through a very difficult time, and it’s really brave of you to reach out and share your feelings. It’s clear that you are feeling lost and uncertain about the future, and it is clear that it is tough when it feels like things aren’t going as planned.
You mentioned that you feel like you wasted your potential and you’re unable to change anything now. You also expressed that you feel like your family isn’t supportive, especially in seeking therapy because of financial concerns. It sounds like you are carrying a lot of burden on your own, feeling like you can’t reach out for help. It seems like you’re carrying a heavy weight of regret and frustration, and I hear you. But I also see a person who wants to move forward, who is looking for answers. You are not alone in feeling lost at times—many people also struggle with uncertainty about their future. It’s really important to acknowledge that things can and do change. Even if you can’t see it right now, small steps can bring big change.
The fact that you’re reaching out for support shows that you have resilience. It takes courage to express how you’re feeling, and your desire to change shows that you care about your future. That is a strength, and it’s something to build on. It’s important to remember that there’s no timeline for how things should look. You don’t have to have everything figured out right now.
I want you to know that you are surrounded by help; there are many others willing to help you. Here are some options
Generalised
IMH
IMH’s mental health hotline for those facing mental health crisis.
6389 2222
Samaritans of Singapore (SOS)
SOS operates a 24-hour hotline to provide emotional support for those in facing crisis or suicide risk
1800 221 4444
Youth
CHAT
The Community Health Assessment Team (CHAT) provides confidential mental health checks for young persons between 16 and 30 years old, who are currently living in Singapore. They operate CHAT hub, a mental health centre located at *SCAPE and maintains an online presence through their website and webchat.
6493 6500
6493 6501
https://www.chat.mentalhealth.sg/
Fei Yue Community Services- EC2
LIVE CHAT eC2 is an online facility offering free counselling to youths.
TOUCH Community Services – TOUCHline
Emotional support and practical advice are rendered through this youth helpline
1800 377 2252
Mandarin Speaking,
Care Corner
Hotline for the Mandarin–speaking community facing mental health problems or distressing family situations
1800 353 5800
What I would encourage you to do is take things one step at a time. Would it be possible if you can start by seeking some local community resources that offer mental health support. I can understand the difficulty with finances, but there free or low-cost resources available (see list). It’s okay to start small. Would it possible for you to think of a first step that feels achievable for you, even if it’s just acknowledging your feelings and taking a break from self-criticism for a moment? Can you give me your word to commit to this?
I truly believe that the way you’re feeling right now isn’t the final chapter. You are at a crossroads, but that doesn’t mean you’re stuck. There is still so much possibility in front of you, and even small actions can make a huge difference in how you move forward. It’s okay to ask for help, and I hope you’ll find the support you need to keep going. You deserve to feel hopeful, and we are here to support you in any way we can.