At times i dislike senior citizens becos ive emo immature thick skulled dictator at home. Over small matters he wld do emo blackmail n threats.
I wun cry, i will yell back. The prob is not gd for my gut health. Such ppl are selfish, cant stand them, and they dun think of others
My counselors advise me to ignore if not v major issue. But the douche purposely provoke. How do y’all cope if u got fam like this?
Hey @Fenrispro Dealing with a family member like that is incredibly draining, especially when their behavior feels manipulative or selfish. It’s hard to stay calm when someone pushes your buttons on purpose, and yelling back, while it might feel like a release, can take a toll on your emotional and physical health over time. I’m sorry you’re in this situation—it sounds soooo exhausting and hurtful.
Your counselors’ advice to ignore smaller issues makes sense in theory, but I get that it’s much harder in practice when the person seems to provoke you intentionally. It’s like they know how to get under your skin, and that can feel so unfair. Sometimes, I try this method: instead of full-on ignoring, I would try responding in a way that doesn’t give them the reaction they’re looking for—like staying calm, saying something neutral like, “I don’t want to argue,” and walking away. It’s not easy, but it can help protect my energy.
For coping, finding ways to create some distance, even if it’s just emotional, is really important. I try setting boundaries—even small ones, like deciding not to engage in certain arguments or stepping away when things escalate. And when I can, I lean on things that help me recharge, like spending time with people who lift me up or doing something that makes me feel in control again, like exercising or playing an instrument, or just completing a certain task.
It’s okay to prioritize your well-being and find ways to protect your peace, even when it feels hard. You’re doing the best you can in a tough situation.
@Enie Thanku for yr reply 
I will try yr suggestions. I cope by gaming, i love writing and using the tv as barrier against the constant grumbles.
So u also got challenging fam members?
Personally I nev wear masks to friends, thats why ppl like me my 120% sincerity is a strong trait.
I Dun ever wanna be hypocrite
Hi @Fenrispro sorry I have been busy lately and forgot to log on here. Thanks for letting me know more about yourself! Gaming sounds like a good coping mechanism actually, I tend to use social media and dramas to drown out the negativity as well.
It’s sad to hear that you are living with someone who doesn’t give you enough respect, and honestly, you don’t deserve that!
I used to have challenging moments with my fam members, but it has been better these few years after some major incidents and I’m grateful for that.
I admire your sincerity and being so genuine towards your relationships despite living in this situation, it is no easy feat indeed. I’m glad the experience you have now will make you stronger and an even better person rather than the opposite way. Proud of you and feel free to chat more here! I’ll reply when I log on~
Its ok i ustand. @Enie Thanku for yr encouragement. Yes it has made me stronger, jus that i often get IBS from conflicts. I rather have a heart of stone
Yea its really tough coz such boomers old Gen dun change. Its unfair when we are sensitive, i was also mad becos not like he so “wei da” - when we stil in sch he suddenly dw to work then have the gall to expect me to do things.
■■■■ bugger.
Hey @Fenrispro Glad to here it makes you stronger, that’s the spirit I admire. Yea it’s such asian parents or old generation typical mindset, at one point I find it hypocritical or double standards most of the time. However, I have acknowledged that I cannot change them due to their nature, so I’m trying to change how I react or my mindset. As they always say when we get mad, we are the ones suffering not them.
Love your spirit and I hope only good things come your way in the future! Hang in there!!!