I’ve been single for 10 years. I’m not stricken ugly or so disabled to have to live this way. Last relationship I was in traumatized me I guess. I don’t have the self esteem to approach a woman. I feel I’m not worth or have anything that anyone would want. It really sucks being single
Dear @user7091
Thank you for reaching out. It’s only human to want companionship and feel wanted so please know that what you shared is something most us can identify with.
Furthermore, I think it is understandable to feel uneasy about taking steps towards exploring future relationships when I read about how deeply your ex has hurt you. It is likely the trauma you have experienced then has not been processed adequately. Thus certain negative beliefs about yourself have developed.
Do speak to a counsellor soon to address the negative beliefs and thought patterns contributing to your low self worth.
I have observed counsellors can safely and non judgmentally help you identify, examine and replace negative beliefs and thinking distortions with more accurate, positive or balanced self beliefs.
Counselling support coupled with self awareness and determination are effective steps to begin the recovery process. The situation can improve so please reach out for help soon. 