Is it ok that I don’t like people who give up easily and have breakdowns and that I just want to leave them and have nothing to do with them even after knowing them for a long time, like I don’t see any benefit for me in this relationship anymore and I feel nothing for them .I just feel weighted down, and they are asking why I have been distant how do I respond?
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Hey @user7754
I hear your frustration with what’s going on right now. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of emotional weight, especially when you feel like others are emotionally “draining” you. I completely understand how being around people who seem to give up or struggle with breakdowns can leave you feeling exhausted or even resentful. It seems like you’re struggling with how to balance your own emotional well-being with the expectations that relationships often bring.
I’m curious, do you notice if these feelings of emotional detachment or disconnection happen in all relationships, or do they seem to surface with certain people or situations? Sometimes, when we feel overwhelmed or unable to meet someone’s emotional needs, it can lead us to withdraw or shut down as a protective mechanism. Does that resonate with how you’ve been feeling?
It’s important to acknowledge that taking space for yourself is valid, especially if you’re feeling emotionally drained. At the same time, though, I can imagine this distance might also leave you questioning how to respond or what to say when others ask about your distance. You’ve mentioned a lot of weight and frustration in this relationship, and it seems like it might be really difficult to know how to handle the situation without feeling overwhelmed.
I’d encourage you to take a moment to think about what feels right for you in this relationship and what boundaries might help you protect your emotional well-being. If you feel comfortable, it might help to gently express to the other person that you’re dealing with things and that it’s been difficult for you to manage emotional energy in the relationship. You don’t have to go into all the details unless you feel comfortable, but it might offer some clarity and room for understanding.
Above all, it’s okay to prioritise your mental and emotional health. You don’t have to have all the answers right now, and it’s completely fine to take time to reflect and figure out what’s best for you.
We are here for you, and we want to support you through this. Please take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out if you want to talk further.
hey there - i get what you mean as i went through a similar phase before! i think it is okay to take awhile and get a fresh breather, you are not obliged to respond to them as fast as possible. you could give yourself some space, take your time to focus and internalise your feelings and emotions first, before responding to them. maybe there was an occasion that is causing you to feel burnt out in terms of your relationships? it is understandable if you need your own space as well, i believe your friends will be able to empathise with you~ after all, your friendship probably isn’t based on how you respond or interact with them in the present moment, your friendship bonds were formed when they first met you, decided to choose you as a friend and stand by you because they liked your character – and i hope these reasons are enough for you to remind yourself of how important these friendships are to both you, and those around you :,) hang in there, you got this!!
I totally get where you’re coming from, I’ve been in a similar place before!
I think it’s completely valid to want distance when something feels draining… but it also makes sense that you’re struggling with how to explain it without hurting them.
sometimes, we grow and change, and the people we’ve known for a long time stay in a space we’ve kind of moved past. It’s natural to feel like the connection is fading, or even heavy 
I think it’s okay to take a step back … but you can still do it with kindness 
maybe something like, “I’ve been going through a lot and just need some space,” could help you be honest without feeling guilty.
Recently I have tried to look at old friendships with a softer lens, like:
-is there still something meaningful here?
-Could setting better boundaries help, instead of walking away completely?
-what brought us together in the first place? Are there memories or moments that still matter to me?
Let me know what you think 
It’s okay to feel the way you do, but it’s also important to recognize that everyone handles challenges differently. Some people might feel overwhelmed more easily and need more support in those moments, and it’s not a reflection of their value as a person. However, it’s also perfectly valid to acknowledge when a relationship feels draining or no longer fulfilling for you.
If you’re feeling weighted down, it might be helpful to explain that you’re feeling emotionally drained and need some space to recharge. You don’t have to go into too much detail if you don’t feel comfortable, but it’s okay to let them know that you’ve been struggling with your own emotional energy and that you’re trying to take care of yourself. You could say something like:
“I’ve been feeling really drained lately, and I think I need some time to focus on myself. I’m sorry if I’ve seemed distant, but I just need to step back for a bit to recharge. It’s not about you personally, it’s just that I’m struggling with my own energy right now.”
You don’t have to continue engaging in a relationship that feels exhausting. Setting boundaries is an important form of self-care, and if you feel like it’s time to step away, you deserve to prioritize your own well-being.