I know people will just say go find another new job… but it’s just so hard… that lost confidence, that grievances that no matter how much you fork out and how much you have worked hard for the company, just for them to disown you during one fine day … I don’t think it’s okay to feel okay, when it is stuck in my memory that I had lost this job, and that I cannot guarantee that it would never happen again if I ever found a new full-time job again… How should I grieve over it ?
Hey @User7096,
I hear your sadness and discourage about losing your job. It’s like the ground fell out from under you, after all the effort you gave. It doesn’t sound like you’re just missing a job; it sounds like you’re grieving a part of yourself that believed hard work would protect you. I can also feel your hurt and fear, from being let go without fairness, and that it could happen again. When work has been the main proof of your worth, losing it can feel like rejection of your very self.
Grieving this means allowing the anger, the disbelief, the emptiness to exist a bit, without rushing to fix it. Sometimes the body needs to catch up before the mind can plan again. Perhaps, consider one small ritual of closure. Write a letter you’ll never send to that company, naming what you gave and what you’re taking back.
And when the thought “it might happen again” comes, you might gently remind yourself: “yes, it might… but I also now know what betrayal feels like, and I survived it.”
That said, take your time to grieve. If you find it difficult for your first step, you can always call a counsellor on 1771 Mindline, and walk with you through this transition. If you prefer mobile messaging service via WhatsApp at +65-6669-1771.
Maybe we just hold that not-okayness together for a bit, until you find comfort to speak to someone.
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