I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost a year now. We got together a few weeks after my 5 year relationship breakup.
My past relationship was really toxic and he was just using me as his tool and satisfaction.
I found out he also got a new girlfriend a few weeks after I broke up. With someone who’s super religious, in contrary to how he was when he was with me.
I feel betrayed. I’ve been wanting to change to a better person when I was with him but he didn’t allowed me to because he kept wanted to do *** with me.
I feel super worthless useless even when my current boyfriend isn’t like my ex.
But I feel shameful, disgusted with myself.
I too know that God will never forgive someone like me…
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Hiyee,
Please see here for my consolidated reply - I hope to feel happier and better. =)
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Not sure if you know what your main issue is since your title is “I can’t get over my ex” but you only talked about how toxic and bad your relationship with him was,
BUT
Try not to feel or think in the way that ‘God will never forgive someone like me,’ but rather in a more optimistic way like, ‘I’m learning and growing from this experience.’ It’s important to recognize that everyone makes mistakes and has difficult moments, but these don’t define who you are or your worth.
Instead of focusing on feelings of unworthiness, try to focus on the progress you’re making. Your current relationship shows that you’re capable of being in a healthier, more respectful dynamic. Reflect on the strength it took to leave a toxic situation and how that strength is helping you build a better future.
Consider framing your past as a part of your journey rather than a marker of your worthiness. Forgiveness and self-compassion are key. Everyone deserves a chance to heal and start anew, and that includes you. Allow yourself the grace to acknowledge how far you’ve come and to continue working on your healing and growth. It’s okay to seek support, whether through counseling, spiritual guidance, or conversations with loved ones.
Remember, you’re more than your past experiences, and you have the power to create a future that aligns with your values and desires. Keep moving forward, and trust that your journey is leading you towards a healthier and more fulfilling place.