I confessed to a friend a month ago and he rejected me, but before that he gave me so many signs that he liked me. He called me pretty and flirted with me every time we talked so I thought I was special and that he liked me. After like almost a year with like chunks of us not talking as much in between I decided to confess and he said that he needed time to think about it and since it was late he said “good night, sweet dreams” and added a “
" behind and so I thought I had a chance because he was acting like he liked me but the next day he told me that he didn’t like me back and it’s been a month since I got rejected and I can’t get over him and my friends are trying to make me get over him but it isn’t working sometimes I still miss him and cry myself to sleep thinking about him and now theyre asking me why I liked him and I don’t know the answer either but they keep pressuring me for an answer and when I couldnt give one they started jumping to their own conclusions like " you deluded yourself into thinking he might like u” and “because he gave you validation” and I don’t know if it’s just me and I’m too sensitive but that sounds very offensive to me and I don’t like the pressure and forcing me to get over him.
Some days I just want to die because I feel like I’m useless. My parents keep calling me calculative when they’re showing extremely obvious favouritism to my brother and scolding me for the littlest things so we’re constantly fighting. Most of the time the reason we fight is also because of my brother. Everyday I feel so ugly and the only time I felt like I looked acceptable was when he told me I looked pretty although I never saw it I believed him but now I dont know because he was probably just saying that for casual flirts. Although my friends are constantly calling me pretty i dont really believe them because you know how girls are they literally call everyone pretty (to their faces at least). I just wanted to rant sorry if theres too much here and i wld love some feedback on everything
Dear @Goodmorning
I’m glad you reached out. What you’re going through is deeply real, and it makes so much sense that you’re feeling overwhelmed right now. Let’s go through this gently, together:
First of all: You are not too sensitive.
You were brave enough to open up about your feelings to someone you cared about, and when that didn’t go the way you hoped, of course it hurt. Especially when he gave you signs—flirting, complimenting you, making you feel special. Anyone would have felt confused and hopeful. You didn’t make it up. You were responding to something real, and it’s okay to feel heartbroken about it.
And the way he handled it—saying “sweet dreams ;)” right after saying he needed time, then rejecting you the next day—would’ve been confusing for anyone. It’s not your fault that it gave you hope.
Why you liked him doesn’t need to make perfect sense.
Sometimes, we like people simply because of how they made us feel. Maybe he made you feel seen or validated in a way you don’t usually get. Maybe he felt like a safe space for a while, especially when things at home are tough. That doesn’t mean your feelings weren’t real. You’re allowed to have loved the moments when you felt wanted or appreciated.
Your friends may mean well—but you don’t deserve pressure.
Being asked to explain your feelings when you’re still healing from them can feel like being pulled apart when you’re trying to stitch yourself back together. You’re not “deluded.” You’re human. And when people say things like “you just wanted validation,” they may be trying to help in their own way—but those words may feel minimising.
It’s okay to tell them gently:
“I’m still hurting, and what I need right now is kindness—not analysis.”
And now the deeper part: feeling like you want to disappear.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. When it feels like everything is piling on—pain from rejection, being misunderstood by friends, fights at home, feeling invisible—it makes sense that it would start to feel unbearable. Please know this:
You are not alone. You are not a burden. You matter so much more than you realise.
Even if it doesn’t feel like it now, this pain is not permanent.
There is still a future where you feel wanted, loved, heard—and where you see yourself the way someone else will one day: beautiful, funny, smart, full of potential.
About feeling ugly or unseen…
The fact that you still remember when he called you pretty shows how deeply you wanted someone to affirm you. That makes sense. Especially when home doesn’t feel safe or fair. But your beautywas never dependent on him seeing it.
I acknowledge it’s hard to believe compliments from friends. But that doesn’t mean they’re lying. It might just mean you haven’t fully learned to believe them yet. That’s okay. You’re allowed to take your time learning to see yourself with love.
You’re not broken. You’re healing.
You don’t have to rush to “get over” anything. You’re grieving something—an emotional connection, hope, the feeling of being wanted—and grief takes time. Be patient with yourself. Try to rest. Breathe. Be gentle. Cry if you need. Write. Reflect. Talk. You’re allowed to feel it all.
If you ever find yourself thinking you don’t want to keep going, please reach out—to a friend you trust or a counsellor. You are worth the help. You are worth staying for.
And if you ever want to keep talking here, please continue to reach out to us.
You don’t need to be “fixed.” You just need space to be you. 
he gave you validation. Theres plenty of fishes in the sea