I’ve been struggling with academics and social life recently. My grades are miserable, my friends all look at me with that questionable glance and I’m relapsing. My body hurts (ik its my fault), lowkey I’m just trying to stay alive rn. I wanna start fresh but just cant find a solution to my current situation. I get jealous over random ppl on the internet just bc they do what i do best better than me and they’re younger. I have impulsive thoughts too often and I lack the positivity. How do I really try to cope rn, im really serious
Dear @Elisionzw
Thank you for reaching out. From the sharing, I can sense how overwhelmed you are. It is understandable how you are feeling given the heavy mental and emotional load you have been carrying for a long time all by yourself, without support.
May I gently request you to be kinder to yourself, recognising that you are facing many challenging areas simultaneously. This include friendships, comparison, and relapse. I believe anyone else in your shoes would also feel exhausted and lost with so much going on.
I encourage you to lay off social media for the time being as I have seen that it can potentially worsen how we feel when we are already struggling. People usually post only their highlight reels, and comparing our lives and struggles with their highlights may create inaccurate and unhelpful perceptions for us.
At this moment, I encourage you to take one day at a time instead of trying to fix everything. I believe small acts of self care and being more mindful can help, such as eating regularly and exercising. To build the study habit, start with setting aside 15 minutes to study uninterrupted. Thereafter slowly increase the study period. Getting started is the hardest step so do not be discouraged when it initially feels impossible. You can gain momentum so stay consistent and you will see improvements.
And if things are getting really unbearable and you’re struggling to stay safe, please reach out to someone such as a trusted adult or the national mindline at 1771. The mindline operates 24/7 so if you need immediate counselling assistance, please reach out. Other resources available are also listed at the national mindline wayfinder. You don’t have to carry all of this alone.