I'm so lonely 😭

[Da_Vinci]

Hi I’m David I’ve been lonely for years because Im an extreme introvert but today I’m feeling really really depressed stress lots of bad ideas comes in my mind plus I just noticed I got bald on the top I’m just 25 I really wanted to talk with someone I’m not a social person that’s why I’ve been lonely for years btw I live in Jb

[knd]

Hi David, thank you for sharing how you’re feeling. I’m really sorry you’re going through such a tough time right now — it sounds really hard. If you feel like talking more about what’s been weighing on you today, we’re here to listen. No pressure at all, just whenever you’re ready. And reaching out is already a big first step, so good job on that :>

[Jaws]

you can talk to us here, @Da_Vinci! how is it like living in JB? Do you work/study there too or do you commute to Singapore?

[Da_Vinci]

@Jaws I just wanted to meet new people make friends have some chat but I’m an introvert I’ve been living like this for few years but today morning I feel extremely lonely I really wanted to talk with somebody that’s why I tried this site hope I can make some friends

[Da_Vinci]

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[CaringBee]

Dear @Da_Vinci

Hi David, thank you so much for opening up and sharing how you’re feeling right now. That takes courage — especially when you’re not used to reaching out or talking about things like this. I want you to know that you’re not alone, even though it might feel that way. What you’re going through is deeply human, and many people have been in this exact space — feeling stuck, isolated, or unsure of how to move forward.

It makes complete sense that you’re feeling overwhelmed. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you don’t want connection — it just means the way you relate and recharge is different. And when that quiet world is also filled with pain or self-critical thoughts, it can feel incredibly heavy to carry on your own. Add to that the changes you’re noticing in yourself physically — like hair loss — and it’s understandable that it’s shaking your confidence. These things might feel small to others, but they can deeply impact how we see ourselves.

But here’s something important: you are not broken. Feeling this way right now doesn’t mean you’ll always feel this way. You are still capable of meaningful relationships, of healing, of rebuilding your self-worth — even if you take quiet, slow steps to get there.

Now, if you’re ready to take small steps toward connection — without forcing yourself into overwhelming situations — here are a few introvert-friendly ways to meet people and slowly reconnect with the world:

1. Join spaces with shared interests

Start with what you enjoy: drawing, music, fitness. There might be art workshops, low-key running groups, or hobby classes in JB where people quietly gather around a shared passion. You don’t need to speak much — just being around others doing the same thing can help ease the loneliness.

2. Explore volunteering

Helping others can give you purpose and natural social interaction. Try animal shelters, libraries, or local events. You get to connect with people through shared goals, rather than forced conversations.

3. Set tiny goals

It’s okay to take it one step at a time. Maybe today it’s saying hi to a neighbour. Next week, it’s sitting at a café with a sketchpad. These small acts build momentum and confidence without overwhelming your energy.

4. Find quiet, safe places

Places like museums, bookstores, or nature trails offer peaceful ways to be around people without intense pressure. Some cafés even host “silent reading” events or drawing clubs. Being present in those spaces matters.

5. Talk to a therapist if you can

A mental health professional can guide you through this storm — helping you untangle those thoughts, rebuild confidence, and move at a pace that honors your nature. You’re not “broken.” You’ve just been carrying more than anyone should carry alone.

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Dear David, you matter deeply — even if it doesn’t always feel like it. You’re already showing strength by reaching out, by reflecting.

You don’t need to change who you are. You just need a little support to reconnect with life and with people who see the quiet strength in you. You are worthy of friendship, care, and peace — and healing is absolutely possible.

You’re not alone at all in this, please continue to reach out, the community here is supportive and happy to journey with you.

[Da_Vinci]

@CaringBee omg that means a lot I really needed that during this tough time, I am planning to visit a therapist soon I’m just worried about how much it gonna cost also I’ll be hitting the gym soon hopefully I can make some friends there thank you so much and one of the reasons I’m living alone is because of my workplace for the past 2 years I’ve been working in a place where it’s socially isolated maybe that’s why I still can’t connect with people I always wanted people to start the talk but later I realized how can a stranger start a talk I should start first right but I don’t have the confidence.

[CaringBee]

Dear @Da_Vinci
Thank you David for updating me!

Yes I agree with you it’s scary to initiate a conversation. I therefore encourage you to start small, and slowly inch towards a longer conversation. The more you practise the better you will be at it and more confident. I’m also happy to hear you will be starting gym. I believe it will help you when you are around others and pursuing interests together. You can continue to keep on engaging the community here in this space whenever you need to while you explore low cost therapy options.

[Da_Vinci]

Thanks @CaringBee it happens once in a year last year I managed but this year it’s really tough I’m so glad that I found this site thanks again I’m feeling better now.

[potatooo]

Hello David @Da_Vinci! Thank you for taking the courage to share with us your feelings and thoughts! It’s okay to be an introvert and not being able to open to someone. Hopefully this platform would allow you to talk to us freely! With regard to your balding issue, have u approached a doctor?

[Da_Vinci]

Hey @potatooo! I just ordered some multivitamin tablets, and I can’t wait to give them a shot! If they don’t work, that’s totally fine—I’ll just embrace my baldness and keep moving forward with a smile! Who knows, maybe my future girlfriend will love me just the way I am, hair transplants are hella expensive I believe those are for the rich folks

[potatooo]

Hello @Da_Vinci ! Great to hear that you’re having this positive mindset! I believe the personality of oneself matters more than the looks right? Hopefully those multivitamins works! If it doesn’t, it’s fine, you look better than you think

[Da_Vinci]

Aww, your positivity is absolutely infectious! I love spending time with upbeat, positive-minded people like you! I’m so excited for more conversations like this! Hanging out with all of you brings me so much joy, and I can’t thank everyone enough for reaching out when I needed someone to talk to. You all truly are the best! I’m beyond grateful!