I have a close friend and recently I’ve been finding her super irritating. She always posts pictures of herself now and not that thats a bad thing, but I am projecting my insecurities onto her and I find myself really hating her now. She lipsyncs to songs with filters online and posts pictures of herself and all everyone does is call her pretty. People tell me I’m lucky to have such a pretty friend. When we post pictures together people only ever say she’s pretty. People always tell me “oh your friend’s really pretty.” Last time she used to not think she was pretty but now she does, and she’s embracing it. I want to be happy for her but I’m so angry, and I hate myself for it. No one ever calls me pretty and they act like I’m lucky to be friends with her just because she’s pretty. Some people have even let it slip that I’m ugly. She used to call herself fat all the time and people would just call her “tea” and tell her she looks great. And I hate that. I hate that I’m so jealous of her cause she has everything. Her life is so fun and she doesn’t even care about how she acts cause people will always like her because shes pretty. I have to be smart, polite, caring… at all times just because I’m not. I’m so angry at this and I just feel like crap all the time because of this and I really hate her. This is a horrible feeling and I feel like a horrible person and I really need to get this out. What should I do?
Hey @happeningswan685,
Thanks for reaching out!
Based on what you’ve shared, it does sound like you’re in a dilemma. On the one hand, she’s a close friend and you want to be happy for what’s going on in her life. On the other hand, you feel a sense of envy because everyone else is calling your friend “pretty” and is showering her with attention.
Feeling jealous of a friend is completely normal and valid, especially in our growing-up years, and we’re trying to figure out who we are and where we belong.
I am wondering if you’d be open to speaking to your friends about these feelings? Sometimes, having a good and honest conversation with a friend can help to soothe the tension before the jealousy can fester.
Or if you have any other strategies that you feel might be helpful, feel free to share them too. 
Dear @happeningswan685
Thank you for reaching out. What you shared about how you feel when others praise or compare you with your friend is only human. Understandably it hurts and contributes to feeling unseen and not feeling good enough.
May I recommend:
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Take a break from her posts for a while to reduce those triggers.
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Remind yourself that people’s comments don’t define your worth, even if they feel loud and constant.
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Try to focus on what makes you feel confident, not just what others praise.
You can care about your friend and still feel hurt at the same time. Please know you are not horrible, but dealing with a tough emotional situation.
Speaking to a counsellor may help you unpack this situation and the feelings of hurt and envy you are experiencing. You do not have to face this alone. With support, you can figure out the best approach to better manage this situation and reduce your distress. It can also help you rebuild your confidence and handle those comparisons better.
Hey @happeningswan685, thanks for sharing! I think neither of those statements are true - your friend is not annoying, neither are you a horrible person. These days many of us inevitably engage in self-comparisons with others. The tendency to compare yourself with people “better off” than you can be an indicator of where your self-esteem lies right now. From what you have described, it seems like you have a silent longing to be able to embrace your looks and receive compliments like she has, and seeing her content may be worsening your insecurities and self-esteem. Like other users have suggested, it would be best to mute her content and protect your energy. Comparison truly is the thief of joy, and social media can often times encourage such unhealthy comparisons with others. Taking breaks and learning to build up your own self-esteem in small ways can really help. This may seem silly, but try looking in the mirror every day and finding just 1 thing about yourself to compliment, say it in first person and really look at your reflection. At the same time, your friend getting extensive praise and support from others does not necessarily mean that her life is all sunshine and rainbows - remember that you never know what someone is truly going through, just like she may not know the struggles you may be facing! I hope that you can rebuild your relationship with yourself and embrace everything about yourself! 
It sounds unfair, and i think this person is so shallow to focus so much on appearance. Its valid that u feel jealous