I just want to figure out if something’s wrong with me because I get people upset sometimes even though I don’t want to, its just that sometimes im cool witj someone then the next second i start being dry cuz i got jealous or something bothered me. Also I always say something impulsive like I always say something before thinking about it and i regret it after because it ends up hurting someone. And with my parents It looks like im disrespecting them but I dont really intend to.
Hey @lit,
It sounds like you’re feeling a bit stuck and frustrated because you’ve noticed how your emotions sometimes mess with your relationships. It’s honestly great that you’re thinking about this—you clearly care about the people around you.
So, what I’m hearing is that you sometimes pull back or get a bit distant when jealousy or something else comes up, and then there are those moments where you say something before thinking and end up regretting it later. Does that sound about right? Can you think of a recent time when this happened?
It’s okay to feel all of this—jealousy, frustration, regret. These feelings are part of being human, and they don’t mean there’s anything ‘wrong’ with you. Let’s just sit with them for a second; no pressure to fix anything right now.
If you ever want to chat about ways to handle these moments differently, we can totally do that. Just let me know if you feel ready to dive into it.
The fact that you’re noticing this stuff is already a big deal. That’s the first step. Maybe next time you feel yourself pulling away or about to say something impulsive, just take a deep breath and ask yourself, ‘What am I really feeling right now?’ It takes practice, but you’ll start seeing small wins over time.
You clearly care about your relationships, whether it’s with friends or family, and that’s awesome. That’s where change starts—just wanting to do better. No one has this all figured out, so don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re already doing something about it by reflecting and trying to understand. Next time you catch yourself feeling off or about to say something impulsive, try a quick pause—even a couple of seconds can help. It’s not about being perfect, just about trying to handle things a little better each time.