Y is living with a family of 5. She is a middle child with an elder brother and a younger sister. Their agegap is not big just 1-2years, however the brother and sister are more close with each other and always left her out for every activity that they are engaged in. They always have the same topics that only the two of them know and Y was the one that they was bullied on. Parents are more doting on the youngest as usual and they are concerned with the only boy child in their family as well. Whenever there is an argument, parents will not ask for any reasons of what happen but scold and punish Y. Whenever Y tends to make a confront, they just say that the both youngest and oldest are always right. You should think about why you cannot hang out well with them. Y tried for the past 20 years and it did worked well. When Y was trying to make a conversation with them, the family will just walk away and head back to their room. Ever since young, Y was being thrown at the orphanage by the grandmother just because Y was born at the same countryside as the rest of the siblings. Honestly, I am Y… I was really helpless at this point. I just had an argument with my dad just cause of I sounded out to help my brother with the vaccumm, and I got scoled for being busybody. The moment I stepped into my own room and saw my sister were using my chair, I was just asking if I can have my chair back since she has her own study area. She threw the chair at me and went to complain about me A CRAZY WOMAN snatched her chair. I tried to speak up with the siblings, they always reply me “just the thing that you never know one” Well, I was trying to mix around with them but I guess it does not work well. when I spoke to my parents, their annoyed face made me even traumatized especially they used to beat me up when I was young just to “throw anger” not because I was naughty… ya this is my story and I just had a breakdown who doubted myself am I wrong to born in this family? i tot the people are saying nobody will don’t like their own children, what about me? FYI: I am their real child not adopted etc but yea… maybe its just a middle child thingy which I observed from my cousin too…
Hi @user1688,
Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you’ve carried a lot of emotional pain from feeling unwanted within your family, and I can only imagine how difficult and lonely that must feel. You’ve tried so hard to connect with your siblings and parents, yet their actions have made you feel excluded and undervalued. It’s important to recognise that these feelings are valid, and you are deserving of love, respect, and care.
You’ve tried so hard to connect with your siblings and parents, even when it hasn’t been reciprocated, which shows your strength and willingness to build relationships. It’s understandable to feel overwhelmed and question your worth when your efforts seem to go unnoticed.
You’ve also mentioned that your parents’ reactions, like dismissing your feelings or using physical punishment, have left you feeling traumatised. That’s a lot to carry, and it makes sense that these experiences would stay with you.
It’s clear that you’re reflecting deeply on your experiences, and I want to emphasise how valuable that is—it’s the first step toward understanding and healing. I also see resilience in your ability to keep trying to connect with others and make sense of what’s happening.
If you’re open to it, we could explore small ways to create emotional boundaries and find moments of peace for yourself, even within this challenging family dynamic. You deserve to feel valued and respected, both within your family and beyond it.
You’re not alone in this, and it’s acceptable to approach things gradually. Let me know how you’re feeling about all of this—we are here to support you. 