My ex left me and said that I did not priotize her and did not validate her feelings. She said she has given me many chances and I care more about my work than her. She keeps accusing me of texting other girls or talking to someone else when I have clearly never and most of her friends are guys.
Hi OP, thank you for sharing. it seems very overwhelming at your end. I think you should prioritise yourself and give yourself a breather, as the emotional toll sounds quite stressful to deal with. What helps me during stressful situations are to go on walks and engage in my hobbies, so perhaps you can engage in your hobbies as well to recollect your thoughts. Also, perhaps you can distance self away respectfully as I believe that you should also protect your headspace. Take care OP 
Dear @user7242
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you are experiencing. I can feel the hurt you are experiencing from your ex gf’s action of leaving you. It sounds like she puts the blame of the breakup squarely on you, especially when she accused you of a)not validating her feelings, b)of cheating on her and c) prioritising your work over her well being.
I can sense you still care for her and was willing to work through the differences. I believe it hurts even more because she has blamed you entirely without taking ownership of her part. I gather it must feel like you are left holding not only the deep hurt of losing her but also her version of the cause of the break up, too.
May I gently remind you that just because she left doesn’t mean you were the one to blame. She did not make efforts to understand you or build trust between both of you. She applied double standards on friendships with people from the opposite sex.
I want to let you know that is fully understandable and only human to hurt and grieve from:
- The loss of the relationship
- the fact that she might never fully acknowledge what she did to hurt you.
- the lack of opportunity to clear your name re the wrongful accusations.
Please allow yourself time to heal. Do know that it’s ok to tell yourself that I did my best. I tried to show up, to care, to make it work. That matters — even if she couldn’t meet you there.
If she has not reached out and and hasn’t shown signs of owning her part — you don’t need to chase her for clarity or for fairness.
You can still forgive, process, and heal — but on your own terms and timeline. Please continue to reach out whenever you need to for support. During this difficult period, spend time to re-centre yourself as part of healing. Speaking to a counsellor may help, too. 
Hi, thank you for replying. If it was you what would you do
Going back to an ex is already problematic in and of itself, but try to talk it out but it seems that your relationship won’t be very strong because they are so adamant that you’re seeing other people in the first place.
It sounds like she is projecting her insecurities onto you. It also sounds like she may be cheating instead of you and wants to make you feel like you did something wrong. I’d suggest you don’t go back to her, there are other girls who are better
So it’s been over 3months and I think she’s done. We’ve haven’t talked at all.
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